I've seen people mention on here about triggers.

I guess I finally experienced one today.

One of WH's credit card bills came in today. I opened it.

On it there was the charge for the dinner that he and OW had when they went out for WH's BD. He also had tickets for the concert at the place where the dinner was.

I know he took OW. He told me when I asked who he took to the concert. (I was supposed to go with him). The concert tickets were $120.00.

The dinner cost $153.00. WH also bought a new suit for the occasion.

After I saw that, along with some other charges for places they went to dinner, it was all I could do to go back to work after lunch.

I just wanted to go home and cry. He's never spent that kind of money on taking me out anywhere before.

Now, along with the erased calls on his work cell phone (probably still in contact with OW), I've had about all I can take.

Is this normal? Is it going to happen all the time? Will it ever get better?

K

*bump*

Also, should I talk to WH about this?

K

K, I don't think you should talk to your WH about crap. Until he is your FWH, that is.

He still cannot be trusted. He must EARN the privledge of being your confidante and friend. He is still untrustworthy, IMO.

If you want, what I did when I was hoping my H was Former but not sure yet, make a list of things you need to clear with him, when you are sure he is back on your "team." This was recommended to me here, cannot remember by who, and it worked great.

Thoughts and prayers to you, K!

Spidey

Thanks, Spidey (?)

I have a journal that I bought around here somewhere....I can't find it. I have all kinds of things to write in it.

This is a good suggestion.

It's hard being a team of "one".

But God is always with me.

K