WH is being recruited for a job that requires 50% travel. He currently is out of town for 1-2 nights a month. When he mentioned he was interested in pursuing this job I told him the travel bothered me (I've also told him numerous times since then). His affair(affairs?) all took place out of town when we worked in another job that required frequent travel.

I told him I think this is no different than an alcoholic walking into a bar. Once he's on the road again he will feel the temptation to fall into same old patterns. It's been 3 yrs since Dday and I have no real evidence that anything has happened since then but there have been a few incidents where he really stretched the limits of our agreed upon boundaries.

I can't imagine spending 2 weeks a month worrying about what he's doing and who he's doing it with. We do not need the additional money the job would bring. In addition to having to worry about what he's doing I'd also be a "single parent" 1/2 the time.

I've expressed my concerns a number of times but he continues to move forward in the interview process. I almost feel that I should tell him if he does we're done because I don't want to go through those feelings each week.

On the other hand I think of my kids which is the only reason I am still with this man. Since I've gone 3 yrs do I wait until he really does something?