I try to remember - when things weren't so bad. I try to remember the good things, the special things, and get out my photo album, and hope that those things can keep me going - one more foot in front of the other, one step at a time.<P>I think this is the hardest part of Plan A.

When I do that, I cry uncontrollably. When the tears stop, I do feel better though <P>Eric

I agree with Eric...when I look at old photos of W, all I can see is her image with another man. I find my coping mechanisms are reading, praying to God for strength and this forum. I'm in Plan B - so I don't get the daily reminder lik you TNT. Keep holding on...we're here for you!

Be safe. Be strong. Have faith.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

I think my lovebank is so empty about now that I'm going to have to declare love bankruptcy.<P>I also love I Corinthians 13. I had to memorize it as a kid (without appreciating it at the time) and feel it's one of the most beautiful passages in sacred literature. One of the verses (8 - RSV)) I particularly like is this:<P>"Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for knowledge, it will pass away."<P>I've thought about that a lot over the past year, because many times it's seemed to me that, in my marriage, love HAS ended, failed. But then I realize, no, what happens is not that love fails US. ("Love never ends.") It's WE who fail love. That thought has actually been a comfort to me during these emotional hard times.<P>--Wex

Trustntruth...how are you doing?<P>Wexwill...this chapter had special meaning to me in life. It was even in our wedding. Currently I am reading a book about this chapter. It is called A Love That Never Fails by H. Dale Burke. Very comforting, thought provoking and inspirering. I wish we could all live our lives this way.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

TNT-<P>I understand how you can feel as if you are running on empty. I do that often and like you I try to find those special moments when everything seemed perfect. I guess it never was perfect, but oh I felt good. And I want to feel that way again.<P>So I look at old albums and read old letters and 1 Corinthians 13 (One of my favorites) and pray for the strength to get through one more day. <P>I will pray for you. As you have prayed for me. God bless.

tnt,<BR>I don't look at pictures anymore,especially the most recent ones of a couple of days before he told me he was seeing someone..I don't even recognize him anymore as being the man I married.<BR> What I do is remember back when we first were dating and the love that I felt for him and the happiness that we shared, because I know he loved me then. Keep trying to remember how it was way back, you two are still TOGETHER and you are within reach of gaining back the love you two once shared, <P>keep trying<P>I've been thinking about you.<P><p>[This message has been edited by LA46 (edited September 20, 1999).]

Thanks you guys.<P>My MIL separated out some pictures from H Aunt's and Uncles, (recently deceased) and handed me an envelope of pictures a couple of weeks ago.<P>I opened the envelope up today. There were pictures of him and the X, and their babies. It reminded me of him cheating on her then, too. He played like he was the perfect father and husband. Phony.<P>Then I saw pictures of him that I never saw before during our separation in 96. I looked at his hands. He was wearing his wedding rings! That made me feel good.<P>I also saw a picture of us that we had taken at church a few years after we got married. I wrote on the back of the picture "Mike and Connie - 30 something." Remember that show?<P>I guess this roller coaster is slowing down again. I'm sure glad.<P>I'm considering taking our 6 year old to California with me for Thanksgiving. I think I need to take a little trip home.<P>Thanks you all. You are really wonderful.