Hello everyone! ive only posted a few times on here. I just recently found out that my husband of 12yrs had an affair. We are separated right now, he stayed in the house and i moved out. We are somewhat trying to reconnect and i did put plan A in effect, but i got sick and tired of meeting his needs when mine where not being met. I need answers to my questions in order for me to move on. Im trying to forgive him. It just seems like when i want some questions answered he turns everything around on me,like he is blaming me for his **** up. (sorry for the cuss word). Im just so angry right now. Why is it that he can tell me about my faults but when i want to tell him about his, he doesnt want to hear it. I know i did make mistakes in my marriage. But it takes 2 to break up a marriage in my opinion.
Can anyone give me some light of this, PLEASE

that is a typcical WS thing to do and say. They can not shoulder the responsiblity, In their mind they were pushed into the affair. That if you would have been a better wife they would not have needed this other person. Well that is a whole pile of Bull $hit!!!!!!! My H still sees things that way, and it makes me MAD too <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> ..
Hang in there, This is the toughest thing I ever went through. I always felt it would be easier to recover if I lost him to dealth then another person. At least then you are not dealing with rejection as well.
However Plan A does take a while to work, and it is NOT meant to make the WS happy, so don't do things just to please him, just do not do anymore Love busting, and try to live your life. That will freak him out more then anything!!