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lemonman, that came from in me, I have been thinking it for a long time. wondering what is wrong with me to put up with so much crap. I keep going back for more and wonder why. You are not a dark side, and I would love to learn more about you. SOrry to hi-jack your thread... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
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Well, after all that....what should I WB be willing to put up with? I'm 44, she is 39. I still feel this also has to do with her age, and working with a younger crowd. So....I'm waiting for thay day...when something clicks in that heart and sets it free. Tonight she said..."as soon as I begin to regain my love...I can't but help to think that someday you'll not forgive me...and not treat like you are now". She said I've been great and that I would be better off without her.
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There really must be a WS hand book of what to say out there. They all say the same things!!!
I am sorry that lemonman and I took over your thread. We were trying to be helpful honest. I think we were more damage and confusing then good.
I am the worst person to ask. I am in the same boat and just do what ever it takes not to rock it even though a good chunk of the time I am not happy.
You want your marriage. If that is truely what you want deep down, then all you can really do is continue with plan a or move to plan b. The choice is yours.
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Any other thoughts? Anyone? Also...my wife seems to be depressed...she sleeps all weekend.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Welderboy:
<strong> Any other thoughts? Anyone? Also...my wife seems to be depressed...she sleeps all weekend. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Personally, I think she's still involved with OM. I think she is learning new ways to try to keep you guessing.
Why not find out for sure? Maybe hire a P.I. to follow her on one of these nights she just decides to go out.
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I think she is struggling with many emotions....but she not seeing the orginal OM. She wouldn't do that to herself. I did the following...she was just with work friends.
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Hey...I'm heading out to church this AM...then stopping by to see my folks. Deb's Mom is going back home...she had been staying with Deb's brother...she is over there now. Anyhow, from the beginning...I went and saw a counselor...she said not to contact Deb, that she was pulling me with one hand and pushing with the other. It seemed that after 2-3 days she would call and either we would do something together or I'd stay the night..just holding her. Her boss at work, a female...saw Deb go thru a spell the other day...hotflash, red ears etc., and suggest she see her female Dr. Later, Thanks.
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Well? As I pulled my bike into the church parking lot...I phoned home to tell Deb that I missed her, and wished she was with me. Thats when she let me know she was taking stuff and heading over her brothers to live for awhile. Her Mother stayed on to help her, I guess? I just spoke to her...she said she wasn't ready for a D...she loved me...but wasn't sure if enough. She said she had prayed with her Mom and asked if I was going to be alright. She also told me...this wasn't about OM, and she see's that as a bad mistake and she was going to try to get herself figured out. I guess...I'm growing stronger. Pray for Deb's heart.
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