My h has not left, I accused him of cheating on me and other family members and friends thought the same because he had changed and he was telling me he was confused and didnt know what he wanted so I did some snooping and thought I had caught him, come to find out I was wrong, or had the wrong person.
Since then he wont talk to me, wont forgive me for thinking the worst and not giving him space, instead of pushing the issue.
So here we are living in the same house, sleeping in the same bed. Only talking trivial bs and he said he loves me but doesnt feel the same or not in love with me. He's here but not.
He goes out or finds somewhere to go everyday after work and returns between 11pm and 1am
I feel so lost and alone, so sad because of what
we had.
He doent want counciling or help and wont promise that he will try.
any suggestions

Sounds like he is having an affair for sure. You must stay in Plan A, and keep checking on him.

thanks for the reply
After he put me in my place for having the wrong name, he clears his calls off his cell and is very
closed off from me i have a 2yr old and im too old to go chasing after him with a child in the car, usually its the babys bed time shortly after he leaves.Im so hurt that he wont forgive me I have been in a state of panic and pain.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">After he put me in my place for having the wrong name, he clears his calls off his cell and is very closed off from me </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Depending on the cell phone company you can view his calls online. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Go to the cell co. website and make a login and see if this option is available. If you find proof DO NOT GIVE UP YOUR SOURCE if at all avoidable. IF he is clearing his calls he is guilty in my book. JMO though. Married people DO NOT KEEP SECRETS unless it's a suprise B-Day party.

The other way to get the calls is to call the cell co and request a break down of the calls to and from the phone. You will probably need the last 4 digits of his social # . This option is a little more risky though in that the cell co could get suspicious and decide to call him. So if you can do the online thing I would.

If it's his work phone then obviously this won't work. In this case go for the home phone # list from the phone co.. Start looking for phone calls placed when you are not at home and he is. then highlight those calls and either call them yourself or have a friend do it. Try to identify all of the numbers and BINGO. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I hear the mission impossible music starting. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Keep us posted. And remember all snooping is Good and Necessary.

C.

I agree with the others, you need to find out what he is doing. Can you hire a P.I.?