We’ve (or at least I have) been trying to make things work for over 18 months now. My wife recently told my daughter that she doesn’t love me and that she’s only staying with me because of her (our daughter). I’m not happy - the atmos is not good and my wife is very argumentative and has adopted a very aggressive stance. Whether she’s still in some kind of fog, denial, or genuinely doesn’t love me , I don’t know. The latter is now something I have to seriously consider. Anyway, if it wasn’t for our daughter I would also have probably walked away by now.

I do still have some feelings for my wife, but now wonder who she really is. I’ve always been the keener of the two of use to make it work. I don’t really think I can post in the Recovery section anymore – maybe I’ve lingered there for too long and been in a sort of denial about how bad things are. I’m very lonely, and my life feels empty. I can still remember what it felt like having proper family, with all the things that went with it, like someone telling you and showing you that they love you, and I long for this. Perhaps there should be a special section for those in limbo.

Anyone else in the same boat?

I read your message and it touched my heart. I know exactly how you feel. I have been told the same thing as recently as a week and a half ago. First, I recommend you understand what your responsibility is as a man of God. GOD hates divorce, and as such, you should hate it also. You can't give up on your marriage, even if she does. Continue to make prayers and declarations over your wife. Do not accept the situation for what it is, but for what you are asking the Lord for it to be. I know how it is to be yelled at and verbally abused, and to make the decision not to strike back in any way, verbally or else. At those times you have end the conversation, and walk away, or hang up the phone, until both of you are ready to talk. For me I had to break off a conversation, and we did not really begin talking for several days. I did not act mean, I just had to stop the pursuit until she was ready again. It takes more of a man to do this, because you know physically we are stronger. Read 1 Cor 13: 1- to the end of the chapter. You probably already know this, but it talks about true love. If you wife is willing, have her read it with you. I know what you are going through is hard work. I am in the midst of the same thing right now. I am fully committed to doing Gods will in addressing my relationship, because I still want it to work. I believe you want the same. God bless and keep you. You are not alone, you have God by your side, and friends her on earth that he will send to help you through.