My H knows about the book surviving an affair, and Plan A, Plan B. I am wondering if this is a disadvantage because he knows I am using a 'plan'. He said he thinks maybe it would be better if he didn't know about it. He says that the book is written about our lives, and we are following all of the 'problems and reasons' to a T. I said so if that is the case, then everything should work out in the end, just like the book LOL.
Did anyone else share the plans and MB with their WH or WW?

Thanks!
Danielle

Some have shared MB w/ their WS. Not always wise at the beginning. A WS does not appreciate the guidance info from MB can provide. In fact there is a direct hatred of any helpful guidance.

This is why it is often better to hold off on this kind of info until santity returns to the WS. If MB has already been introduced all is not lost. Remember the BS has access and support from good solid tools. The BS still has control over the BS and changing the tactic slightly can still provide beneficial results.

Please contact Steve H @ MB and ask for his assistance. He can provide you with a plan to help you use these tools in a productive way.

Keep reading and posting.

BTW, I copied the entire concepts section, put it in a binder with dividers and gave the binder to my H. I used to e-mail excerpts from posts from others (so he could see that he wasn't "special"). A former xWS (Trueheart) even wrote a letter to my WS.

We are now in a solid recovery. Trust is building back. The OW? She is still a nut case. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

My Xws has returned to santity and come back home as our H.

Hope this helps.

L.

I am the WS, I found MB before my wife did. She didn't want to save M. I did a kind of reverse plan A. We are doing great! If your WS is wanting to save your M (or even if he thinks he doesn't) this site can be a wonderful tool for both of you. He should be warned though, this place can be rough for the WS and if he seeks recovery of your M he may want to post on the recovery board rather than GQII.

Thank you for the advice. My WH knows a little about MB and the plans. He has not been to the site, but when he was home and I knew about the A he and I started reading the surviving an affiar book together, until he left and I had to finish it alone...
Danielle