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It has been a LONG while since I have been here reading- and even longer since I have posted.... But the wonderful people here helped me with an issue before... So I brought my current struggle here to seek some advice....
To update:
Me Wife- BS
2 kids
Married 4 years together 9
Affair began 3 years ago...
Seperation #1 Dec 03
"false" recovery
Seperation #2 Aug 04
Contact resumed Sept Oct 04
NC #2 began yesterday...
NOW-
Shortly after D-day- I wanted and truggled with contacting the OW (then H).... I thought he should know what was going on- and had a right to be armed with the same information that I had about what was going on in his life too... Well at that time I chose NOT to contact him- mostly because in my opinion it would have re-started contact with the OW (which happened anyway...)
Now with the events of the last few days- I have the perfect opportunity to contact him and tell him what happened...(they have since divorced...) I struggle with the fine line of "revenge" and arming him with the knowledge I feel he deserves...
I know that she will try and contact us if I do tell him... So is it worth it?...
I just believe he has a right to know exactly why his marriage ended...
Opinions?....
Thanks...
I would like to do it in the next few hours
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What do you think your M might gain from it?
(I don't believe their marriage ended because of your H's A with OW... same mine was not for my X's A with OW...)
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