I guess right now, I ma not as patient as I should be. I had posted how my husband had started an on-line affair with a married woman from england. They have only met face to face once, and beleive they are in love. I am trying to work things out with my husband, however he says we have both changed, and that we want different things out of life. When I asked him what he wants, and he tells me, they are the same things I want, and I have told him that. He says he just needs to move on. He has moved out of our apartment, and is consulting with lawyers. I desperately want to work on our marriage, and am trying everything I can think of. <P>Last week I told him that he would get the space and time he has asked for, I will not initiate contact (phone or otherwise) with him. That is what Plan B is about correct? Did I jump to fast into that? Should I still be trying to romance him back? How long should I stay in this phase before moving to the next. I cannot give up our marriage. My heart and my gut says that we have what it takes to spend the rest of our lives together. I can't ignor that. <P>Sorry if I keep repeating things over and over... just finished looking at pictures and old wedding video, and am even further convinced we have a shot. How can I convinvce my husband of that? He has put up so many walls now, that he doesn't want anythign to do with working on our marriage.

What happened with your husband, that he ended up in an internet romance affair? Was there lovebusters - or was there a lack of emotional needs being met? Or is he addicted to porn on the net - and found the OW that way?<P>Plan B is for those of us who just can't do plan A anymore. Plan A is No lovebusters, and doing everything you can to meet their emotional needs. Plan B is no contact and working on you because you are losing love for your husband.<P>