For those who take life too seriously

1. Save the whales. Collect the whole set.
2. A day without sunshine is like, night.
3. On the other hand, you have different fingers.
4. I just got lost in thought. It was unfamiliar territory.
5. 42.7 percent of all statistics are made up on the spot.
6. 99 percent of lawyers give the rest a bad name.
7. I feel like I'm diagonally parked in a parallel universe.
8. Honk if you love peace and quiet.
9. Remember, half the people you know are below average.
10. He who laughs last thinks slowest.
11. Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.
12. The early bird may get the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese.
13. Support bacteria. They're the only culture some people have.
14. A clear conscience is usually the sign of a bad memory.
15. Change is inevitable, except from vending machines.
16. Get a new car for your spouse. It'll be a great trade!
17. Plan to be spontaneous tomorrow.
18. If you think nobody cares, try missing a couple of payments.
19. How many of you believe in telekinesis? Raise my hand...
20. OK, so what's the speed of dark?
21. How do you tell when you're out of invisible ink?
22. When everything is coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.
23. Hard work pays off in the future. Laziness pays off now.
24. Everyone has a photographic memory; some just don't have film.
25. If Barbie is so popular, why do you have to buy her friends?
26. Eagles may soar, but weasels don't get sucked into jet engines.
27. What happens if you get scared half to death twice?
28. I used to have an open mind but my brains kept falling out.
29. They couldn't repair my brakes, so they made my horn louder.
30. Inside every older person is a younger person wondering "What the hell happened?"

why would a person whose life almost got completely destroyed by the internet think that chatting or playing online could still be ok?

I have opposing theories on that, Finally.

1. Complete and utter denial!

2. I think it's more a matter of behavior than situation. Getting too personal and intimate with people in any context where you have to keep it secret from your spouse is a very bad idea. But the internet itself isn't the problem, it's the behavior. When I consider the multitude of situations that lead to affairs, most of them are hard or impossible to avoid. Work, church, neighbors, etc. The internet just tends to give the illusion of anonymity that tends to make people open up too quickly with strangers. If awareness is in place, good boundaries erected, and complete honesty is practiced with your spouse, the danger of getting involved in an online affair should no longer be an issue.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by FinallyLearning-T2M:
<strong> why would a person whose life almost got completely destroyed by the internet think that chatting or playing online could still be ok? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Qualify this first...

Are you counting MB?

no i am not counting MB

Finally said: why would a person whose life almost got completely destroyed by the internet think that chatting or playing online could still be ok?

Maybe because it's not the "internet" that was the thing that was bad, but where within the "internet" they went.

disclaimer: for the purpose of this post, "you" means the wayward person...

Suppose you met OP at work - is "work" now a bad/wrong place to be?

How about if you met them at a restaurant...does that mean you can no longer go out to eat?

Or, what about the ones who met OP at their church/church function - should they no longer go to church?

I think it's all relative...you wouldn't stop working and go on welfare just because you met OP at work - you might change jobs...you might choose other places to have lunch/dinner...you may even find another place of worship...just as you should find other places to be on the internet...you might put up a block for certain sites, you might even totally avoid certain searches all-together, you might even choose to only go to the internet when your S is there to help monitor your behavior.

Basically what I'm saying is that no "place" is safe, yet that doesn't mean that everywhere is "bad" either...Only you know your limits, your boundaries, and your weaknesses...therefore, only you can decide which things should be laid aside, and which can just be modified.


OK, just my opinion...
NEXT!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

FL,

I want to give you my opinion but I don't have enough time right now to devote to a thoughtful answer.

Attached, please find your rain check. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

I'll be back! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Yes, I wondered that. Are you counting MB?

Cos I find I think about you guys when I'm not on the computer and I think that's sort of weird because seriously I really don't know any of you at all - you're words on a page and pictures of some of you.

But I feel I know you all very well. My son met some of the people he talked to online and was blown away by how different they were in real life. (Not in a good way).

I'm not meaning to be insenstive BTW FL. I can see how it's only too easy to get to "know" people on line.

Jen

hiya all...dr's appt tomm at 12--not going in 2nite...brown and i had a huge fight over something stupid...dr's office are a bunch of whackos and stupid, nonetheless and robby edited hi post. here's the proof, i am AG, ya know.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">[ January 06, 2005, 11:37 AM: Message edited by: robby13 ]</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Guess since the thred has ben going so well today, now that im on, i'll kill it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Me too, Kiwi!!!

I deleted it before I hit "add reply", but the last lines of my post was actually this:

"As for me, I'm addicted to this stupid thread!! If anything on the internet could interfere with my marriage, on my part, it would be this site, and the time it (could/can) take away from my S and M."


I too think about the people here, probably too much! I pray for you all! I even tend to feel offended when someone says they don't like "us" here at Idiotville - they don't even know me, so 1. how can they have that opinion?? and b. why do I care?? And, I feel real sadness when someone tells their sitch, or something that happened to them, etc.

And, you are too right, it is easy to open up to a bunch of total strangers...confession - I was really nervous about e-mailing Jelly, because I was afraid she might not be IRL who she is here, and I didn't really want to blow the image I had of her from here, and vice-versa!

Oh such tangled webs we weave!!

BTW - HEY KIWI!!! How'd ya sleep? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

It's ok LINY I'll kill it for you.

I made the mistake of posting outside I'ville yesterday. I thought it was quite well thought out and meant something but, apparently not. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Don't forget that married couples do have fights anyway, that aren't A related or anything related - just the result of 2 people living together.

I'm having real problems with conflict avoidance at the moment. Rob and I have gone back to talking about the weather and work. I tried to say this morning something about him not kissing me during SF and he turned it around to the fact that I wasn't being very affectionate lately and spending all my time on the computer.

So I did my usual flirt with him like mad thing to take his mind off it all and subject was dropped. Not good.

Jen

hi liyn!!

no, i am not counting MB, not at all.

dobie, your posts hits the nail on the head completely.... </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> If awareness is in place, good boundaries erected, and complete honesty is practiced with your spouse, the danger of getting involved in an online affair should no longer be an issue.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">i guess my question was a bit off...

why would someone who's marriage was almost completely destroyed due to lies ever act otherwise again?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> not kissing me during SF </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">i really hate that!!!!

Oh Jen, not to be mean, but that's kind of comical in a coincidental (?sp) way!! H and I have been "discussing" my not wanting a lot of kissing...sorry, I know, too much info, but thought that was just plain odd!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />


Liny - don't worry, you won't kill the thread...happens to us all! Hope you feel better soon!

And, I 2nd what Kiwi said, I told my H after the last little tift that it's not normal NOT to have a "heated discussion" at some time or another - after all, if we didn't, then that'd mean someone was doing way too much brown-nosing and that'd be worse on our M.

FL, I wouldn't act that way ever again. My life is now an open book to Rob.

My A sitch was different from most people's here because it wasn't the result of "meeting" someone - it was being approached from someone from my past and I had NO boundaries in place whatsoever for a situation like that.

Jen

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">i really hate that!!!!
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Not me. But it depends. Sometimes "just cut that sh*t out and get'er done" hits the nail on the head.

(snort)

something must be wrong with me, i can't ever seem to get enough

D-
ME TOO, SISTER, me too!!!

And Jen - some of my BEST friends I've made on the internet. I met The Mommies online 6 years ago! I love them and their children like they are part of my family.

Gosh, we're all replying to about 4 different posts at once. LOL.

This is my last post for a while as I'm going to be late for work if I don't get off the computer soon. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

BTW the not kissing is not A related. It's been a pet peeve of mine for YEARS.


Now I've REALLY gotta go. See you all later - although I'd like to just stick around and talk this morning. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Jen