It looks like H is going to be deployed.

On top of concern for his well being..I don't trust him to be faithfull..

long separation..alcohol flowing freely..abundant whore availability..not to mention lots and oodles of time to spend with female co-workers..ya know..bonding.

phooey.

--Noodle <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

{{{{{Noodle}}}}}

I'm so sorry. Just hugs and hugs and hugs for you!

When does he leave, do you know?

Spidey

OUCH. Sorry to hear it, noodle. Are you anticipating the very worst, though?

The very worst is making an ID..or a video with his head cut off.

It does look like they will be going..they were fitted for body armor today.

--Noodle

ok, let's say SECOND WORST scenario. Where do things stand right now in your marriage? How far out from D-Day are you?

Does he have any idea where he will be deployed? My step-son is in the green zone inside Baghdad.

Noodle,

Don't know what to say. I wish I had some brilliant revelation or spiritual passage that would give you strength and courage. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Or you could give him some Paxil. Label it potency pills and tell him to keep doubling the dosage if it doesn't work. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Forgive my attempt at jest. I am just trying to give you some comfort in my own awkward way.

You are in my prayers!

SS Thanks, really

ML Things are good. D day was 03/03. It's the circumstances. And my basic inability to trust. Even if he were sitting alone reading his bible..I will still be triggering left and right thinking of the possibilities..and when he returns..I don't think I'll be able to take his word as a given. This little germaphobe thinks that having SF with someone who has been away for months and had ample opportunities to pick up something nasty would drive her screaming into the woods. Panic baby, nothing like it.

Right now looks like Iraq. Probably in march [hey! just in time for the anniversary trigger <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ]

Cymanca Brilliant revelations and spiritual passages all fall a little flat for me when pulled out of a hat. Dark humor will suffice, bring it on. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

--Noodle

Hang in there Noodle.

You are an emotional wreck. You have every right to be. There is SO much for you to have to think about it. We are NOT properly trained for this... are you seeing an IC ? If not...I'd suggest one now...this is ALOT. Even for a spouse that ISN'T dealing with recovery.

I'm praying for you, and I'm praying for your H.

I feel awful for you.

Please keep posting... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Cymanca..

I was thinking salt peter..for preservative purposes of course <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> or explosive...could go either way..maybe they will be nicer to him if they think he might blow up. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

BIJ..yes, I do have an IC..I'll be going through his box of tissues no doubt.

--Noodle

I'm so sorry. I know there isn't a damn thing I can say that will make you feel better right now.

I'll buy you a pony !

Hi Noodle,

Sorry to hear that your H is deploying... Does he have male friends in the unit that he's close too that could be an accountability partner?

I'll be praying for you guys...

Semper Fi,
RIF90

RIF..

[snorts unattractively at the notion]

Are you kidding me? They are being sent with another unit from another place [to avoid the debacle created by last years deployment of an entire company..all at once..leaving this place limping along at breakneck speed to keep up]

No such creature. He will be with strangers. Even if he weren't..he doesn't have any friends close enough to fill that position.

It's working w/out a net I tell ya. Guess we better practice our act before the show.

--Noodle

Well, hopefully he won't be deployed for a year.

I've heard that they might shorten the tours on the next OIF & OEF rotations... of course that doesn't help those of us that are on one year rotations... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Hey {{{{{{Noodle}}}}}}}

I know, I know infidelity sucks and I feel your pain.

Just hope that he'll remember the pain he caused for himself and you.

I read somewhere (answered by a man) that most men wouldn't participate in something that could destroy them and thier families.

Both your and my H didn't realize how much it would mean to them and to us when they crossed that line, all we can do now is hope they learned something from thier BIG mistake!!!

Re

Oh crap.

Its gotta be really hard for services personnel & spouses to recover.

Nothing useful to say Noodle, just " oh Crap".

I recommend GREAT SF before he deploys and lots of regular steamy letters and photos of you to keep him keen !

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

{{{noodle}}}

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<small>[ November 05, 2004, 08:26 AM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">***edit****</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm proud to serve my country so that you have the right to say whatever you want...

Your comments aren't helpful to any of our service men or women that are deployed or for their spouses that are still at home.

I'm sorry that your guy lost... but that doesn't give you the right to rub salt into the wounds of those here that are trying to rebuild their marriages.

You need to take your venomous comments elsewhere...

Semper Fi,
RIF90

<small>[ November 05, 2004, 08:26 AM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

you've got me all wrong, I totally dig military guys and girls! ..I'm just saying good ol' GB should spend a little of his dough to help you all out....fly those spouses out for a little hometown action to keep the moral up!

<small>[ November 05, 2004, 02:28 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

I'm actually considering doing something of a revised plan A..I'm not certain it is appropriate or wise..but it seems like under the circumstances some sort of extra effort is in order?

Thoughts? Suggestions?