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ok heres the gist of whats up. I had always been a very attention giving/reciving type person after the A i'm haivng some trouble. My h is saying his attention needs are not being meet. He saids he wants thigns like me to great him when he gets home from work, more SF intiation by me, more kisses etc. I really want to do theese things and i always intend to do them but then i dont out of fear of looking foolish or being rejected. maybe b/c during the A he rejected me many times. I dont know, what my reasoning is BUT i always intend to do it and then i just can not follow through <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> any suggestions or a kick in the butt! Thanks tara
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I had not realised until the a how much attention my h needed.I always thought that a fully paid up adult would be giving attention to those in need ie children.He needs to be noticed all the time, He needs to be complimented on every thing he does and also on his appearance.
We have developed a routine every morning when he leaves for work he says "How do I look"and I think of a different response each time.
Apparently leaving and arriving home are crucial points in the day they set the mood for rest of the day and for the evening.It doesnt seem like much but it does make a difference
<small>[ November 04, 2004, 06:48 PM: Message edited by: H2O ]</small>
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SoSad - I know how hard it is to put yourself out there after the rejection you felt during the A. However, if you want to make your M work you have to get out there a take a risk. Start slow to build up your confidence and see where it goes. Keep reminding yourself what the goal is (a happy M) and do what it takes to get there. The good news is your H is there with you and wants to work on the M.
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My husband found 1 thing very calming and made us close and if it helps you more power to you. I would lay down in bed and turn the TV on and he would lay where his hand was in my lap and I would file his finger nails and bluff them for him. When I was through filing and bluffing I would rub lotion on them. By the time I was through with the first hand he was relaxed and happy and almost asleep. Simple and only takes about 10 minutes per hand and he was happy for the attention. If he doesn't like filing then just rub lotion in like a hand massage.
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