What made me do it?
I have married 25+
years-why did I mess
up now? why do I
still think of OM?
my H is a great man,
am I just a weak
woman? I wish some
one would just smack
me & say "SNAP OUT OF IT!"
I cant-I cant let go-
& tonite it pisses me off,
I am so tired of my
mind & energy being
consumed by something
that was the worst
thing in my marriage.
my heart hurts tonite-
I want to talk to H-
but it is just still too
hard for him-
I am approaching 1 yr ago-
1 year ago of being with
only the 2nd man in
my life-
I hate myself tonite...

Hi PAL,

Is your H there with you tonight? Why don't you just go tell him that you need for him to hold you.... you don't have to go into any details... just let him know that you need for him to hold you...

Open up to your H and give him a chance to help you...

Semper Fi,
RIF90

I second that, Your H can not meet your needs unless you let him.

pal, how you doing today?

Peace and Love.

I totally understand. Maybe it has something to do with winter coming on and we miss the warmth of the friendship, the love, caring, attention, affection and excitement, we got from the OM.

He filled a need inside us.
It is hard to fill that void.
Our husband try, bless their hearts.

But I guess it takes more time for you and me (and others) than it does for some.

Maybe we had NICE OMs. I know mine was and is a very kind and nice man.

People say he couldn't be NICE to have an affair with a married lady yet I also had the affair; I am just as much to blame as he is. (more really)

I started a thread that I would love to have you reply on called: "Romanticizing affairs"

P & L, we WILL get through this.

We need to give our husbands extra love and attention because even though they may not show it, we hurt them deeply.
We crushed their faith in us.

Affairs hurt the BS AND the WS.

Love, Rachel <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ November 05, 2004, 02:58 PM: Message edited by: MakeYourOwnSunshine ]</small>

wow-thanks friends.
that night I was low.
my H was in bed & so
tired from work week-
I felt so alone-
especially with my
thoughts. my OM started
out great-but then
he turned ugly when
his W found out. he
changed email-ph #.
eventhough he was jerk
to me at end-my
thoughts go back to
our in-depth talks.
I think that is what
I miss-that someone
to dream with. I need to
go right now-but hope
to be on to chat tonite-
prayers-pal