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I spoke with WW today. Actually we have been communicating for several days now by e-mail about the possibility of her moving out of OM's house and starting to work on our marriage. I have been reluctant to let her move back into my/our house until I felt that we were on the right track and things looked good. She had respected that and was willing to find an apartment close to home but has found it almost impossible since she has no money and would have to suddenly come up with rent, car payments, utilities, etc. She is looking for a job to do be able to do all this, but even if she got a job now, she would need time to save some money to make the move. She has only 1 semester left in nursing school and has student loans that she would need to start paying if she left school now also. I don't want her to have to give up school this far into it.

She asked today if I would consider letting her move back home now. She said she would be willing to give up the house if things do not work out and we continue with the divorce and said she would even sign an agreement stating so. While I don't have a problem with that, I wonder what it would do to the kids to have her move in again and then if things don't work out she moves out again.

I do want to see if we can work things out and get back together and put the family back together. I also think that the sooner she moves out of OM's the better. And if she is living at home it may be easier to keep track of her and rebuild my trust in her faster. I think that if she does come home, she will have to have some income to help with household expenses. Right now I am just scraping by. She really seems genuine about this, but the down side if things don't work out has me wondering.

Any thoughts? Give me some pro's and con's.

By the way, she has my copies of SAA and HNHN and has been reading them.

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Is she willing to have no contact with OM and write a NC letter?


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