I couldn't find my first post, but I believe it went something like this.....

"My Dh & I have been together for 8 1/2 years, he called me Friday night (10/8) to tell me he slept w/ a coworker of his Sunday (10/3), & it was only 1 time, he wanted to tell me cause her DH knows & he thought I should hear it b4 her DH told me! He says he love me cause I am the mother of his children but he doesn't love me anymore! He says he needs time to think about everything and figure out what he wants. He is staying at the house, I am sleeping in on the couch. He is sleeping in the room so he can have the alarm clock for work! the past couple days he has finally been able to be civil w/ me.
What I want from you ladies is to help me find ways to get him to fall back in love with me..
Yes, I have forgiven him... I will not throwing 8 1/2 years away with the love of my life!"

11/4/04
Let see... what a terrible week...
1st off he left....was styaying at friends house!
2nd off... he got an apartment on the first... this whole time he was lieing to me if she was living there or not! Come to find out last night from a friend of mine that they are living together.
When I confronted him about it he came clean about everything. Get this he has been SEEING her sin September
I guess they are in love.. so he says.
Get this she had the nerve to call me last night to apologize for hurting me!!!!
I told him my issues weren't really with her, they are with him I told him he is not allowed to have my kids around his place if SHE is there! I am not ready for that! I am still in shock about everything today! I guess her husband is wanting to talk to me! But my husband says he doesn't want him around me or the kids harrassing us!!
AGHHHHHHHHHHHH! I am so hurt and angry at him!! He was lying to my face this whole flipping time!
But I still want to be with him! I can't seem to stop falling in love with him! I want him back so bad!! I don't know what to do anymore!
Just thought I would give you all an update. !
ANy advice?
Thank You!

11/06/04
Well today we talked about a lot of things...
I told him I wanted to remains friends for the kids sake, he told me we would always be best friends. I asked how she would feel about that, he promised if she was to make him choose her or my friendship he would pick my friendship over her! We are in the process of him adopting my oldest son.
I am wanting to write him a letter pr something but I have no clue where to start or what to say... if any of you have any ideas Please let me know!

I'm so sorry you have to be here at MB but welcome anyway! I'm not sure I can really give advice but I want you to know I can feel your pain. I also, NEVER stopped loving my husband and I never will. Since he is still with the OW I would do Plan B that way he can't have the best of both worlds. If that makes any sense. I know that would be very hard for you to do but you might have to too save your marriage. Keep posting weekends are slow here so give it a while!

Here is my original post... so you all know what I am updating on!


Will you please tell me your point of view on this...
A week ago my DH told me he slept w/ a coworker, just 1 time about 2 weeks ago. I HAVE forgave him for it and he is still torn by it! He says we should seperate.
We have been 2gether for 8 1/2 years, married 4. We have 2 gorgeous kids, and I have 1 from a previous that he is in the process of adopting. He told me the night he told me he cheated that he loves me because I am the mother of his children but he doesn't love me, and his feelings are different for me!
He normally works swimg shift, but this past week he was working days, so I told him he can stay here. For the first few days he slept in the room and me in the kids room. But Wednesday I slept in bed with him, we had sex, he initiated it. Then again last night he initiated sex.
We still haven't talked about the affair. I really don't want to. Every1 says we need to! But like I said I forgave him for it, for being honest and I love him way to much to dwell on it! I am not angry that it happened, I am angry because he hasn't said sorry! Honestly I love him just the same if not more.
I want to work things out but he THINKS he would be happier if he was on his own!
I have not told him I love him or anything not knowing if I should or not, he knows I love him and he is my KING, I can swear 2day b4 he walked out the door for work he said I love you! Not 100 percent positive though!
Right now things are going good, I mean we are getting along great, apparently. But he still wants to be on his own. He still won't talk about it!
What is he thinking? I don't know what to say or what to do! Do I still tell him I love him? Even though he knows it. Do I let him leave and let him realize what a mistake it will be?
My fear is and always has been losing him. Thank You for reading this! Thank you so much for any advice you can give me.