11/04/04
Let see... what a terrible week...
1st off he left....was styaying at friends house!
2nd off... he got an apartment on the first... this whole time he was lieing to me if she was living there or not! Come to find out last night from a friend of mine that they are living together.
When I confronted him about it he came clean about everything. Get this he has been SEEING her since September!!
I guess they are in love.. so they both say.
Get this she had the nerve to call me last night to apologize for hurting me!!!!
I told him my issues weren't really with her, they are with him I told him he is not allowed to have my kids around his place if SHE is there! I am not ready for that! I am still in shock about everything today! I guess her husband is wanting to talk to me! But my husband says he doesn't want him around me or the kids harrassing us!!
AGHHHHHHHHHHHH! I am so hurt and angry at him!! He was lying to my face this whole flipping time!
But I still want to be with him! I can't seem to stop falling in love with him! I want him back so bad!! I don't know what to do anymore! I know I shouldn't but I do! I can't help it!I started counseling last week... I hope it helps!
Just thought I would give you all an update.
ANy advice?
Thank You!

11/06/04
Well today we talked about a lot of things...
I told him I wanted to remains friends for the kids sake, he told me we would always be best friends. I asked how she would feel about that, he promised if she was to make him choose her or my friendship he would pick my friendship over her! He calls me a few times a night to check to be sure I am ok, since I have been really emotional. We are in the process of him adopting my oldest son, what a mess.
He is taking the kids when he gets off work tonight, since SHE won't be there. SHe had to go to a family thing out of town, her husband went with her! I'm hoping and praying things go good for her and her husband and my DH gets burnt so he will come crying back to me! I know how rude! LOL! Any ways this will be the first night Michael will be away from me.
Any1 have any kind of advice for me? PLEASE help me!
I eally want to write him a letter but no idea what to say

Hi imkwatkins,

Welcome to MB... I'm sorry that you are in such pain right now...

It appears from your post that your H is a classic "cake eater". I know it's very painful for you right now, but as long as he's still wanting to stay connected with you and the kids, then you have a much better shot at sucess with a good "Plan-A".

Have you read about Plan-A? If not, read all of the articles here on the MB website and work on making yourself the absolute best that you can be.

I would highly recommend that you find a good pro-marriage marriage counselor and start going as soon as possible... MC will help guide you through all of the different feelings and emotions that are swirling around you now.

Semper Fi,
RIF90

Welcome to marriage builders. You can also talk to her husband and refer him here. Then start in Plan A. It is difficult to do, but necessary. You can read all about it on the link in my sig line.