The kids will be better off this way. No more fighting. No more mixed signals from their parents.

** Edited extremely angry post. **

I disagree totally with your above statement.

I hope you can live with your decision to do nothing to stop the affair from splitting up of your famly.

All blessings

<small>[ November 12, 2004, 01:53 PM: Message edited by: Bob Pure ]</small>

You know what?

It is still a valid statement. I can't do anything right?

I will not contact OMW.

My WW put her notice in at work this weekend. She'll be done working within the next month.

However, she knows I've been checking her phone. She's pissed at me about that.

I'm just too weak to do this.

WW doesn't want to deal with me any longer. I can't keep a stiff upper lip
Just when I try to make things better, they get worse on me. At every turn.

I am almost 100% sure that A is over.
Had a run in with OM. His comments didn't even make sense. Like he didn't know WW still had feelings for him. That her phone calls were more friendly. He claims he was just trying to be polite.

WW admits to me she never knew if OM understood her feelings for him. And is pretty sure his feelings weren't the same for her. So this is beginning to look more onesided.
Could I be wrong....
Hell I'm always wrong.

I'm batting just about zero right now!

Naples I wish you all happiness.
I won't offer any more advice as without exposure I do not think any other action will have any effect. My words would be pointless.

All blessings

Naples,
Don't drive yourself insane trying to make any decisions right now. I'm four months since D-day and I did exactly what you are doing. I felt so bad about myself because I couldn't decide what to do. I think I know whats best (leave) but I can't find the strength to do it.

I feel like I have post traumatic stress syndrome.

Everyone here told me (including my therapist) not to make any decisions right now. As hard as that was for me, I decided to just give myself a chance to really absorb all that has happened and just let my mind work on things without me thinking and pressuring myself everyday and every minute.

I'm still not happy. I'm still thinking I'm out of here eventually but I'm letting myself accept the future a little more everyday and it has given me some peace of mind. I think it will be a lot less traumatic when I go since I've given myself time to come to terms with my marriage being over.

You and I have very similiar views on love. I too feel love is what you have for someone or you don't. I don't have to "work on" loving my husband. It kills me when he says "he's working on it".

Maybe its just the wording. I can accept marriage is work but can't accept love being work. I do not want anyone to have to work on loving me.

I'm praying for you and all of us on this site. We will be okay!