By the way changed my name from whoami31 to tdr --because I am someone.

I didn't go to Plan B. I thought this week would be a test plan b with NC because I knew my WH would use the excuse of having to work nights and not being able to drive the 25 minutes home to me but go to our investment property 5 minutes away to sleep. Well I did not call him -- he did not call me Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday --received a call this morning 4 am. He missed me blah blah --been really busy (he hasn't been working during the day and I work 10 min away.)

Well anyway an emptiness has taken over inside me -- do I really love this person anymore? I have been going through 9 months of heartbreak and there is nothing more to break. Long story short I left him a vm today saying its over I no longer love you. I feel weird, sad, but not heartbroken sad---just sad. Part of me wants him to come out of the fog and jump through hoops to win me back -- part of me just wants to move on.

Warning to those --it is true -- Plan B is an important step in the process because you will lose the love for your WS.

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I feel your pain. I understand the betrayal of some one you intrusted with your kids, and worked with your H. My H did the same thing. Left for the nanny who also happened to work for him as well. Rejection is hard. YOu are probably in a little denial phase. Either way if you are okay with it, then I suggest going for it. Do not completely write him off, do not file for a divorce yet. Give him a LITTLE time to start jumping those hoops for you.

Hang in there.

TDR,

It is not too late for plan B. You are tired of hurting and that is understandable.

Do you really no longer love him? Why don't you give Plan B a try and see how you feel in say 6 months before you make any decisions.

Start writing a Plan B love letter, okay? Post it here and let the vets critique it.

thank you KMEJ and Weaver -- you two have given me great advice. I will do just that -- I have a plan B letter I wrote a month ago. I just don't know it is not just the A or maybe it is -- he is absent from our life -- he is shell of a man. I don't want that back. I will not write him off -- As you can see I don't do anything hastly -- too a fault.