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sex and infidelity
#1227123 11/11/04 12:08 AM
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Sexually things have been even worse if that is even possible after the A between my husband and I. My muscles will not relax to allow my husband to enter whereas the OM could and the OM is MUCH larger and wider. It makes no sense whatsoever. My husband in the past complained how tight I was and that it hurt him. I was actually hoping that the A with OM will help loosen things but it has made it worse.
I want my husband to be able to please me and I want to be able to please him.
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#1227124 11/11/04 12:38 AM
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LM, no offense, but you're a human being, not playdough.

Maybe you need more time... only 10 posts! How long since the last time you had sex with OM?

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#1227125 11/11/04 01:25 AM
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well I tried to have sex with h after the first physical contact with om. And not even the jaws of life could have made it work. the last time with OM was on Monday am. It was tuesday morning when he told me that we were done because of several reasons. I was relieved and upset at the same time. Mainly mad at myself. I wished I had never done anything Monday am. My husband and i were getting along great over the weekend.
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#1227126 11/11/04 01:37 AM
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LM, you are going to need patience that can hold out for like two years. Three days, never mind.

I assume your H doesn't know.

First things first.

You need to be sure (and I mean SURE) that you didn't pick up anything from OM.

You need to commit, personally, to your marriage.

And then you need a plan. Get serious; you can't go to bed with OM and a few days later have your M back.

You need to tell your husband.

And, again, you need patience on a whole different level than what you seem to be talking here.

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#1227127 11/11/04 01:59 AM
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Oh goodness you are right. I better go get tested. Oh wait I was tested. You see I had obgyn surgery back in Sept. I had the A before the post op. I went into the post op and they did a test to check for general infections blab blah. results are not back yet. h and i have not had sex since A.
A opened up a whole new world of a different kind of sex and I really wanted that with my husband. It will never happen I guess. My husband is an invalid and can only have sex on the bottom. He says it is painful. He doesn't move much but ironically he is fine when doing his law enforcement work.

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