Hello,

I am the jilted husband whose wife recently came forth with a list of affirs during the past three years of a 25 year marriage. Everyone reading this knows how I feel. That's the bad news. Fortunately I found this web site and the methods proposed in the many articles are helping me and wife to resolve many past issues. I found a side of me that I never knew existed. The good news is that our outlook is upbeat and maybe we have a chance to build a marriage that is better then ever. She can't believe that I could forgive her as it is not my nature to forgive such action and I am scard that those past events will eat me up in time. I don't want that and I don't want to blow the repairs that seem to be in the works. I want to know that whatever caused this bomb to explode will be put to bed forever. I need help to make sure. I live in the Detroit area and we both recognize the need for third party help. I just don't know who to go too. Who is qualified enough to help us? Saving our marriage is the number one priority and we would like to see someone who builds on the concepts outlined by this website. We are hoping to get a short list of professional in the Detoit area. I will post my story latter as it is compelling reading of my wife's second secrete life and the events leading to the discovery and admission and hopfully our recovery. This could be a huge sucess story if we properly handle it. It hurts to even write the words. But for now I need recommendations for help.

Thanks and my heart goes out to everyone in this form,
Mr. Goodstuff

Mr. Goodstuff - Welcome to the system! Congratulations on the progress you two have made already, it sounds very hopeful!

If you also happen to be Christians, I can provide you with a like to a professional counseling service that may have trained counselors in your area.

If you are looking for a secular counselor, perhaps others on the system may know of some in the Detroit area.

Again, welcome to the system. Folks here will try to help out all they can to help you and your wife recover your marriage.

God bless.

Mr. Goodstuff, I think you should seriously consider the phone counseling by the Harley's. Nobody is going to be more familiar with the pricipals outlined here than them. W and I have spoken to Steve Harley about 10 times and it's worth every penny. The information is available on the home page.