When I was pregnant with my 1st child, his biological father left me when I was 6 weeks pregnant. He got another girl pregnant 2 months afterwards. I went back to the man I was engaged with who said he wanted to be there for me despite the fact that I left him to be with biological father. Yet around 8 months of pregnancy, he left too. So I ended up being in labor and delivery by myself-well I had a girlfriend support me.
Nonetheless, in hindsight I wish I had focused on the baby more and the relationship with the baby instead of wasting my time precious time and money fretting over these two men.
I have no relationship with these two men. In fact the other girl who had the baby two months after me gave the baby up for adoption and neither of them have contact of her. The man I was engaged to called me up until last year regretting his decision of letting me go but he has gotten married and I hope he is happy.

But what I have right now is my son. Our relationship was maybe forever scarred because of the trauma I went through. I love my son to death but it was such a painful time for me.

But this is what I would do:
I would submerse myself in the fact that I am pregnant. I would go get pampered-get a massage, your nails done, your hair done. I spent a lot of time in the bathtub too because I didn't have a lot of money. I also got one of those big pillows that goes from one end of the bed to the other so I could wrap my legs around it like it was my husband and it supported the belly. Light lots of candles and play beautiful music-Enya is really soothing for the pregnant mom. Sing..lots of it too. If you have a rocking chair sit on it everynight and baby yourself. Read a good book. Read a book on singleparenting and get together with other single parents. I started my own support group in my town in fact. (My exes were so impressed by that). Go to the Crisis Pregnancy Center and get whatever support you can get from the. Go on hikes with the other kids weather permitting or get dressed in rain boots and coats and splash in the water. Get a doula to support you while you have the baby. Get some frozen foods ready. Decorate the baby's room. Get the other kids involved too and get them excited about the baby. Redecorate the house. Do all the things you wanted to do but couldn't do when your husband was home. If you have the money, buy the furniture you wanted. Rent movies. Make a birthday cake for the baby. Get some birth day gifts to give to each of the kids on the day the baby is born. Start a journal for the baby. Start a photo album of just you and the kids and the life you guys will have. Go to the mall and hang out with the kids. Shop for yourself. Get yourself some new make up or bath oil or something. Get one of those belly molds or make your own belly mold with plaster of paris. Have the kids decorate it. Think about one day when you are a grandma and it will be your kids surrounding you with all of your grandchildren. They will be with you and not their dad because you were THERE for them. Just consider it me and the kids from here on out. THat is how I saw it: it was just me and the baby and we made it through it.
I hope these ideas work because they worked for me to make it through one of the toughest times in my life.

Sorry this is for the woman whose husband moved in with his sister and still sees OW and is about to have her 3rd child. Sorry someone it didn't get posted under the right heading or something like that.

:::Sorry this is for the woman whose husband moved in with his sister and still sees OW and is about to have her 3rd child. Sorry someone it didn't get posted under the right heading or something like that.

I love it. Someone even more ditzy than me! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Just saying hi and welcome to the forum. You will eventually get the hang of it.

AN