I have only posted a few times but read tons. My situation is more of my husband is dealing with issues from being sexually abused as a child. It has confused him about sex, intimacy, and many other areas even his sexuality. The memories started coming to him about 6 months ago even though he was having all the confusing thoughts and struggles starting 5 yrs ago.

We have been going to a counselor for the past 2.5 months but I'm not really sure if she is helping us. The progress H and I have made have been more on our own. She gives us some suggestions but that's been it.

I feel like my H is stuck at an emotional level of a 14-15 yr old. H has gone online chatting but it's been awhile. He has no boundaries, morals, emotionally he's not there at all for me.

He's done his share of cheating but it was more on the internet and an attempt to meet someone (5 yrs ago)one time. Lots of lies too

How do you even begin to help someone realize emotions? Do I have to show him like I do my 14 yr old DD?

I'm lonely, I feel scared and very insecure. I watched Dr. Phil yesterday and what he said about fixing problems in the marriage and not looking esle where really struck home. It repeats over and over in my mind.
here is a man that I love with all my heart, I'm in love with him, being supportive, taking care of the home, kids, etc. He's also terrible with doing his part of the responsibility.
My needs don't get met, period. I don't know what to say to my H. I don't want to put any more pressure on him.

There is a part of me inside today that feels like it's going to snap. Maybe I need a good cry, who knows but the tears just aren't coming.

<small>[ November 12, 2004, 08:01 AM: Message edited by: AmIenough ]</small>