Ok I have reread sample letters from book and this board. I have tried to revise this best i can so it is me. Please review. Would like to send this out over the weekend.
One other question should we include the small letter to OM. This is pretty much written like textbook version?? I don't think WW will tell him or give it too him but should we include it along with my plan b letter??
This a little longer but it says what i want it to say.

My Dear WW
I love you, have always loved you and always will. So much of you is woven into me and will always be there. You are the best thing that happened in my life, you are the person in my life that understands me the most and who I am. I love you for being the warm and sweet, caring person that you are. You are a good mother and a loving wife. I will look back on the 14 years as well as the 20years I have known you and try to think of only the great and wonderful times that we shared together as a couple. I will remember the great times in the two great kids we created and shared in raising together as a couple.

I was unaware of the seriousness of our marital problems. We both have made mistakes in our marriage. I now know my actions where immature. I whined, pouted and became short temper and disrespected you. I should have showed you the affection that we both needed, hand holding, kissing, cuddling, and communication outside the bedroom. I know by not meeting these needs made the affair more attractive option for you. I am so very sorry for this. I am working on meeting those needs and dealing with all of these issues. I know now I can be that loving husband to you and to our family

It is painful for me to know that you are involved with another man. Every time you contact om, I feel so hurt that my love for you is starting to erode. I cannot let this happen. I need to protect my love for you. I must protect myself form the pain I feel knowing you are with him and how is puts our family at risk. While you are involve in this affair relationship with Om I have to limit my contact and involvement with you. This is not to hurt you but to protect my love for you. I will only be talking to you as a co-parent for our two beautiful kids. I will not have contact or discussions with you unless we are discussing co-parenting issues or finances.

When picking the kids up or dropping them off from school or your apt. we should continue to do what we are presently doing. We will continue to co share expenses for the kids as was agreed. For the sake of A and J please do not have om around boys at anytime (ex., dinner, their sporting events, park etc.)
I think this would be in the best interest of the kids to not to be continually exposed to an affair relationship d/t their lack of understanding of all this. Please respect my decision with all of this.

If you want a relationship with me, you must end all contact with OM permanently. Once you have done that, we can discuss more about our future.

I still love you and always and this will never change. I want to be a good husband to you and good father to our kids. I want you to be happy to be in a lifetime relationship with me. I want us to have a better, stronger, and happier marriage than we had before; I want to be your best friend again and hope that I can be yours. I believe we can be that loving couple again. My heart and gut feel it is right and we can do this. It can happen with a lot of commitment and hard work from the both of us. I am willing to make this commitment, once om is out of the picture.

I have not closed the door on my love for you and for us to reconcile, just as I hope you have not.

Take care, of yourself.
I will be praying for us.
With all my love,
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I don’t have om address. I think you should tell and let him know this.

I love WW with all my heart and am willing to do whatever it takes to make her happy. I will wait for her to give me that chance.