posted November 13, 2004 02:19 PM
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I just need some impartial opinions re: my home situation. I'm afraid this may be long. I've been married 8 years, 2nd marriage for both of us. My husbands 27 year old son, girlfriend & 2 children lived 1500 miles away in another state. One and a half years ago they decided to move to our state for better job opportunities. I was not consulted about this but was thrilled that my husband would have his only son nearby & also to have these children in our life. I happily paid the $400 grocery bill plus extras for the kids. (beds, linens etc.) My husband built an apartment over the garage with the expectation they would pay something for rent. Electricity, cable & gas are all tied into ours. After 6 months they had not offered a penney my husband got together with them & agreed upon an amount to pay weekly $150. Both had & still have jobs.
My husband signed a loan for a truck for his son (who had no credit) & that payment was included in the weekly $150 they agreed upon. There are just so many issues here but the bottom line is they will occasionally give $50 for the truck payment & that is it. My husband will not enforce their agreement stating he will not kick them out in the street. He gets defensive when I want to discuss it, I'm the b--- & the adult kids & I do not speak. I believe everyone needs to pay their way in this life. (By the way, they have also had their 3rd child recently.) I am thinking about leaving, my BP is up & I am growing to dislike them because they just do not care whether they disrupt our lives & marriage & I am beginning to think my husband feels the same. Am I wrong? Thanks for any advice.
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