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Reality check
#1228736 11/15/04 05:23 AM
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My W realized last nite that she can't really affordd to move oout with the children. Now she is depressed and see it as a victory for me. This is not about a victory, or a game or whatever, this is about our M and our children. I've even considered helping her again financially to go and "find" herself in the hope of getting her back again after she's healled herslef.

What do I do?

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Re: Reality check
#1228737 11/15/04 06:22 AM
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Don't know your story, am assuming she is still in the affair.

First thought that comes to mind is she shouldn't be taking the children. When she leaves, she leaves alone.

Childrens life should not be interupted because of the affair, nor should they be taken from their family home. Way too much for children to have to go through, on top of the affair.
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I agree with weaver, I dont have alot of experience from the affair standpoint, Im just getting to the point of being able to talk to my W without LBing but, children pick up and carry alot of emotional baggage that we as adults have no clue about, we dont have the right to make them carry all that weight, if your wife leaves, it should be on her own, and Im not saying to use this as a tactic but, being away from the kids and you, may help her realize how much she misses "home", especially if your plan Aing.

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