I caught my husband in an inappropriate relationship back in May. Trouble continued with us through the summer but he's finally trying to be better and make it up to me. All ties are broken with the girl who was 15 years younger than myself. I'm having a terrible time dealing with this and am an emotional wreck. Am having problems with depression. I have more good days than bad now thank goodness but it's still very hard. I stayed strong through the whole situation, especially for my two children and trying to follow the Lord's will. I want so bad to put this all behind me but I'm having such a hard time. I almost wish I could beat the crap out of him for hurting me like that. I'm full of anger still I guess. I've prayed and prayed and my church family prays for me but it's really hard.

Hello Mom

? you stated he had an inappropiate relationship.
Does that mean sex or not?
The feeling depressed and anger is all part of the affair. If you guys are talking and your willing to forget and he is willing to admit the mistake and move on with your marriage then all can be fixed. If are still depressed and feeling overwhelmed by the whole ordeal maybe you should see your doctor to prescribe some meds to help you cope with your emotions.

I know what he did is wrong,but we are human and we do make mistakes for the kids sake try to make it work..................

Littleman

Hi Lovingmom,

Welcome to MB!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I almost wish I could beat the crap out of him for hurting me like that. I'm full of anger still I guess. I've prayed and prayed and my church family prays for me but it's really hard. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sounds like your feelings are pretty 'normal' for a betrayed spouse (BS)...

Are you and your husband in marriage counseling? If not, you should make finding a pro-marriage marriage counselor your TOP priority right now. It is possible to rebuild your M, but it's going to take a strong commitment from both of you and lots of hard work.

If you're looking for a good resource book on Adultery, get Torn Asunder by Dave Carder... I think that you'll find that Dave Carder's book will really help you deal with your feelings as a BS...

Again, welcome to MB and sorry that you have found yourself here. This is a great site and there are lots of others here that have rebuilt their marriage after adultery.

Semper Fi,
RIF90

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by littleman1:
<strong> Hello Mom

? you stated he had an inappropiate relationship.
Does that mean sex or not?
The feeling depressed and anger is all part of the affair. If you guys are talking and your willing to forget and he is willing to admit the mistake and move on with your marriage then all can be fixed. If are still depressed and feeling overwhelmed by the whole ordeal maybe you should see your doctor to prescribe some meds to help you cope with your emotions.

I know what he did is wrong,but we are human and we do make mistakes for the kids sake try to make it work..................

Littleman </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

littleman1,

Sorry, but I have to strongly disagree with your comment of </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> If you guys are talking and your willing to forget and he is willing to admit the mistake and move on with your marriage then all can be fixed. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If a spouse has an affair (EA or PA), then both the BS and the WS must work through the issues... if you ever want to rebuild your M.

My W and I were both 'willing' to just 'forgive and forget' after I learned of her "first" A.... It didn't work. I always felt that there was something missing in our M for over 10 years... I tried to "fix" our M... tried to be a better H, but I still felt that something wasn't right.

Trust me on this one, if mom and her H don't deal with this now, it will only come back to bite them harder later on down the road.

Semper Fi,
RIF90