He slept out on saturday just when i thought that things couldn't get worse they did. I have no proof as to where he was and he denies it to the fullest that he was with OW.

I don't believe him and i have walked out. I am at my moms house but i so want to go back. he on the other hand is acting like nothing is wrong we had businnes to conduct to day and he acted like nothing was wrong. I am thinking of going home tonight just to talk but i ask myself to talk about what?

it's obvious that he does not want to talk to me. And then i get angry and tell myself that i should go just so he could see how he has mamaged to destroy everything, i don't even think that he really cares anyway.

Some please tell me what to do.

Sindy

I am probably not a good person to respond, but I will anyway. I would go back if I was you. That said- read my post and know why I am about to write what I am .

DO NOT GO BACK. Stop running back to him. He screwed up. Wait for him to chase you. If you don't what consquence did he face by leaving and not telling you where he was? Do what I did not, Have respect for yourself. If he does not come after you then it would not have worked anyway. I know it is easier said then done- however I mean it, stay at your moms, do not call him, but answer if he calls you. Be strong. Have him fight for you for a change instead of against you.

Again not the best person here. Others will be along shortly.

Hi T in the road

i guess i knew that. I just needed to hesr it. i read your post and i am so sorry. My heart goes out to you cause remind me so much of myself.

Stay strong an i will pray for you.

Sindy

Sindy,

He's waffling...how is waffling too gonna help this? If you're prudent, you will not go back until you have the participation of your spouse in the recovery of your marriage.

I will pray for you too. If you are feeling weak, and need someone to talk to, I will give you my number and you can call me, any time day or night. let me know if you want my number, I do not want you like me.

T in the road your number would be so great. Sometimes i want someone to talk to and i have no one . There are times when i do feel so all alone.

My email address is kingtara10@hotmail.com

And just so you guys know we are meeting outside the home tonight to talk. I am going to lay down all the rules if he wants me back.
1 he has to be completely honest at all times
2 he has to be available to me at all times
and the list goes on if he cannot comply then i am out for good and this time trust me it's no joke i have had enough of this nonsense.

Sindy

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T in the road will give you a call sometime.

Update on last night: i chose the place for our meeting, i chose a quiet bar. At first when i called him he didn't seem too thrilled with the idea, i told him that i would be there and it was up to him if he wanted to come or not.

He showed up at exactlt the same time that i did.
Still acting like that was the last place he wanted to be. We got there and parked he sat in his vehicle, i got out of mine and asked him if he was coming in.he did.

We ordered drinks and i started talking. i told him how saturday made me feel. when i did he told me that i could move on with my life and that the drink he was having with me would be the last we ever have together. My heart broke again but i kept my composure and continued talking to him.

during the whole conversation i almost lost it but miraculously i kept it under control, somethimg i have not been able to do in a long time. truth be told i have not done such a good plan a beacuse i get so angry at him and i LB.
Could someone please tell me of a good anger maagement course (on line perferably cause i am in the caribbean) .

Somewhere along the way he told me that he was not with OW that he was in the country with his freinds one of them came to town and they went out and the party went on to morning. I am still not sure wether to believe that or not although he did come home reeking of alchohol in truth.
he swore to me that it was over with OW.

We have decided to give the M a go agian. I am going to do an honest plan a this time around and will lay down the rules about him being honest with me at all times. I also checked his phone this morning and i did not see ow's numbers anywhere in his phone.
i checked the calls he made for the day and her nos. did not appear either. i am still walking on thin air though.

tell me what you guys think.

Sindy