Hi I posted around the 11th of Nov
Brief history
me bs 43 h 35 this week
2yr son
accused him of affair on oct 16 found out family members heard rumors and came to me on the 18th he blamed me for turning his world upside down and said he could not forgive me for checking his
cell phone and hated most people in my family now which we have all been really close before
Got him to confess the A on NOv 13 and 2 days prior quit coming home at nite and I ask him to give her up and think about working this out the same day, he comes in and showers and gets a change of clothes for work everyday, told him he needed to call first since D-day he has complied
I went to his closes friends and his family and mine and told them he admitted to being in an
A so now hes being a little nicer and while I
was gone he looked up a website www.makeupdontbreakup.com and has been nicer because it had been all about the fact I didnt trust him and my fault he wasnt home because he said there was no one. I was getting treated like a dog. He even tried to engage in small talk with me today I answered him but kept it short. I wrote him a letter telling him to have no contact with her and we could talk about the marriage but he didnt say anything about the letter,also have snooped best I could but I have no information on OW except he said she was in her late 20s. what should I be doing right now, any advice please

thanks

<small>[ November 16, 2004, 09:11 PM: Message edited by: confused04 ]</small>

Start in Plan A. You can read all about it on the link in my sig line. By the way, welcome to marriage builders. You will get lots of support and hope here.

Hi believer
Ive been doing plan a for a while, being nice
cooking and doing laundry and everything and trying to act like im fine.
I broke down and became the begging wife, so the
next time I seen him I would try to be pleasant
he wont let me meet any EN right now or for the past 4 weeks but I try to feed him, pack a lunch
make small talk. He really at this point just comes in and takes a shower and plays with the baby, and yesterday he tried to start up small talk
because I wasnt here all week for him just to come
in and be with baby and wait on him or give him dinner, I think he is courious, about what Im doing. I just dont know what to do with the very little contact we have and what I should be asking him for since he is not sleeping here for the past 6 nights. I dont think he's staying with OW or why would he come here to shower and seems not to have access to a meal most of the time. He said he was staying with a male friend that I dont know. Any suggestions please

<small>[ November 17, 2004, 11:33 AM: Message edited by: confused04 ]</small>