That's my new mantra.

I said it accidentally in jest at a meeting 2day, but later decided it describes what I'm doing most of the time without calling it something negative like "conflict avoidance" (I just looked this up: is the opposite of conflict avoidance "tranquility collaboration?" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ). But really, it isn't 2uite the same thing.

It's more like I realize that I can't think of any waffle statements at a particular moment, and so rather than making up something "fluffy" 2 fill dead air, I keep my mouth shut and marshall my thoughts a bit better. By doing so last night on the phone (I'm in DC, calling home), I avoided saying something reactionary 2 something my W said about an argument she had with our son. 2rns out, I find out 2day that they're 2th sick and snapped at each other for nothing serious. Being all the way over here on the right coast and all, I initially thought the world was coming 2 an abrupt end, but by applying my new mantra above, I was able 2 think of a RESPONSE, rather than react, and help 2 defuse the si2ation.

So stuff is okay, and I didn't say anything nice, either! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

-ol' 2long

<small>[ November 17, 2004, 10:03 PM: Message edited by: 2long ]</small>

Ya know...I feel the same way. I guess that's why I haven't talked to my STBX in almost 2 months. I have nothing nice to say!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Well I did have something nice and "fluffy" to say but it really was meaningless.

So you know what???? In honor of your new mantra 2long, I'm not going to say it!

Only words of substance and profound meaning for you!

PS, If I adopted your mantra I'm afraid my vocal chords would atrophy from lack of use. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Corollary: "When the phone don't ring, you know it's me."

WAT

WAT:

Don't forget: "Unemployment is not working."

-ol' 2long

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by 2long:
<strong> WAT:

Don't forget: "Unemployment is not working."

-ol' 2long </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It's not? I beg to differ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

BTW, I like your mantra..... you are really earning those wise gray hare, eh? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

L.

Thumper's mother taught Thumper (a cute baby bunny) the following : "If you can't say sompin' nice... don't say nuttin' at all"

2Long... your "new mantra" comes from the Disney classic Bambi.

~~~~~~~BTW... I did not go to the DooDah parade... went to a movie with 15-year-old daughter instead.

Pep

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Pepperband:
<strong> Thumper's mother taught Thumper (a cute baby bunny) the following : "If you can't say sompin' nice... don't say nuttin' at all"

2Long... your "new mantra" comes from the Disney classic Bambi.....

Pep </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Does that mean 2L is Thumper-rizing? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

I loved that movie. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Pep:

Re-read the subject line. It's my bass turd-ization of that saying.

Like it used 2 be "what are friends for?"

But now it's "what are friends?"

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

OR (and I'll remove this quickly if it offends):

"Box is like a life of chocolates."

<small>[ November 22, 2004, 03:55 PM: Message edited by: 2long ]</small>

Or like at lunch 2day, we were joking about eyesight as we get older, and I remarked,

"You have 2 have a rather vitreous humor 2 think that jokes about eyesight are funny."

[edited 2 add: I waited for YEARS 2 use that line!]

-ol' 2long

<small>[ November 22, 2004, 03:58 PM: Message edited by: 2long ]</small>

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

na-na-na ...~~~poooochooie~~~~

You think you're so smart Dr 2Long ... how come your socks don't match? Huh?

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

......and don't count your chickens before you cross that bridge.

Or was it,

You buttered your bread, now lay in it.

The smoker you drink, the player you get ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Pep:

How did YOU know my socks don't match? (they don't!).

I used 2 buy Vans tennis shoes when they'd have a 2nd pair free deal, and get one red pair and one white pair, then wear the red left and the white right.

Van's shoes are cool, especially if you buy the fabric yourself and have them custom-made. Not quite the same as Converse All Stars, though. (I almost bought a pair of plaid hi-tops in Florence, but they worked out 2 about $60/pair!).

-ol' 2long

I agree....If ya aint got nothin nice to say don't say anything.

I haven't talked to my STBX in 2 months even though he's trying to talk to me. I have nothing nice to say. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Movie; Steel Magnolia's

Line; "If you can't say anything nice about someone..... come and sit with me"! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

AN

It is no fun until someone loses an eye.

Deleted...

.. not what I want to leave as part of my legacy in the ole MB archives

<small>[ November 23, 2004, 08:23 AM: Message edited by: weaver ]</small>