Yesterday a good friend of mine revealed me that she has been having an affair. She is single and her lover is married. I was stunned to say the least. She knows of my past problems with my husband and she said something like "I know how you feel about this, but we just have this connection." What a bunch of cr*p!

I'm really starting to question my ability to choose friends and people in my life. This is the second time that a close friend of mine has done something like this, not to mention my own husband's EA. My former best friend did this to her husband and in turn destroyed two families, including our friendship.

I don't understand what is with people anymore nowadays. I feel like infidelity is everywhere and I'm beginning to wonder that if maybe I'm living in the wrong world or that my idea of family, marriage and love is basically old-fashioned and outdated.

Does anyone else here feel like this or is it just me?

Kati

well, it's kind of weird because i've realized that i just haven't had any real friends over the years. lots of acquaintances and people that i would keep in touch with but none like what i think you are describing. part and parcel of being involved with the military my whole life. anyway, i have noticed that infidelity or the unappropriateness of things some people do just eminates from everywhere. it is just so pervasive to the point i believe is just obscene.

even cartoons, or children's stories, i just seem to find something everywhere that i can somehow construe into relating it to infidelity and i'm pretty much just in the detachment mode now. in that unless it involves me or someone close to me i try to just put it out of my mind and ignore. don't know if that what i should do or not but it's just everywhere. i also know that i look at things totally different now and that maybe things that were in my face the whole i'm just now seeing because of what i went through.

you are a sweetie kati, it's not you but i can certainly see how you would think that you seem to be surrounded by people who are involved in these ugly things one way or another. prayers and hugs to you, RR