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Feeling slimey
#1230708 11/19/04 06:44 AM
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One of the things I hate most about this whole thing is snooping. This intelligence gathering stuff makes me feel really low. You know, going through things, checking pockets, phones. That's how I pieced things together. When will I have enough? Every little bit just makes it hurt more. It's like hitting myself again and again. An A is a big invasion of privacy but snooping doesn't make me feel like a very good person.

Anybody else feel this way? I don't like the sneaking into things or the negative feelings I get.
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Hurting carol:

I understand what you speak of.

I didn't enjoy it either. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
(Doubt any of Us do).

But in my case, not because I felt I was doing something wrong......NO, because I was being FORCED by this person who supposedly loved me....to stoop to acting this way (for self preservation).

In addition, the time "gathering" information and evidence is just the worst Emotionally, because YOU "KNOW" something is going on ... just not exactly What!

And then to top it off you have to ACT like everything is OK.....just so the WS doesn't start to cover their tracks even more (talk about a stressful situation).

For them to put us through this is akin to torture.
(And all the while they are having a Grand ol time).

Nothing about being the BS is good.....it all sucks.
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#1230710 11/19/04 08:04 AM
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Top Rope - Well said, thats exactly how I felt during my snooping, and then when I would reveal something I found out to her she would freak, told her then, "I have to snoop because you wont tell me", she called me a stalker, crazy, and a few others, but I needed to know. Her new nickname for me is "Columbo".
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gadge tolds:

Yes, we just happen to "Catch" them....and somehow WE become the Bad Guy?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
Say WHAT? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

When you step back and really think about it (of course, once your in a position NOT to be freaking out) it just makes you shake your head. (over and over) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> SHEEESH!

Sometimes wonder WHY I'd even WANT to be married to someone who'd act like this. (For WHATEVER reason they do).

And these are people who are "supposed" to be intelligent. Good Grief!

(Guess I'm feeling a bit edgy today...oh well).

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