Okay, I don't know why you keep calling ME out, I go over my posts everytime you do this, and can't figure out for the LIFE of me, why you do it.
Other posters are FAR more critical than I've ever been, consistently tougher. Reread the thread, and dozens prior to this, I don't tell Mom what she should or shouldn't do, and I advocate her being here, and support whatever decision she makes, I think I'm pretty consistent from this point of view. Do I think she deserves better ? Absolutely, but that doesn't make me support her any less.
I think I've been quite the opposite, trying to keep the peace on the boards, it's not my intent, and it's not my fault that tempers flare, and insults fly.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> BIJ
Dad knows he was not speaking for "other WS" I believe the comment he made was he was taking the national digs DR Phil was dishing for all WS's Not that he was representing them.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My H made this comment, not me, as a FWS. I'm not going to judge his feelings, or interpretation of that phrase. Or attempt to "correct" his perception, it belongs to him, and him a lone.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Also when I asked about your situation you never answered me (I could not understand why you triggered on MOMs threads)
well I did a search and read your story. I now understand. Dad is were your H was while your H was living with his mother.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You don't understand me at all, you couldn't be more wrong. I've followed this story from Day 1. Mom and I registered and found out about the A within DAYS of each other, that's the trigger. Nothing more, nothing less. My H was
NEVER where Dad is. One thing I don't EVER do is compare, and THAT is a terrible assumption on anyone's part. Just as no one here should "assume" they would know what to do in any given situation, until you're IN it....you don't really know, you can merely speculate...AT BEST.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> The problem here is that ... </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">And then you go into six million reasons why the fence sitting is okay, acceptable. What makes you think there's a magic blue button a BS gets to push that STOPS THE WORLD...so we can devote all our time into the A, the aftermath, and the recovery ????????
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> is 6 weeks the time frame because thats when one MBers WH did</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Again you're making light of MY situation, and it's uncalled for. I'm not attacking M23 or D23, so why are you using ME as your examples ? Please stop making direct reference to me, and MY situation, as you continue to do so throughout your thread. i.e.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Some only married for a few short years and no children are encourage to stick it out </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">How many of YOUR husbands would go on national TV? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If you can show me how comments like these help the hundreds of couples on these boards rebuilding there marriage from infidelity.... well...I retract my statements.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I am here for Mom and Dad period. If they want to divorce I am there for them. If they want to try and rebuild still there.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well, I guess the only difference between you and the rest of the MB community is that we are here for anyone and everyone.
But I stick by Mom and WHATEVER decision she makes faithfully.
I respectfully apologize to anyone I offended. I'm just uncomfortable being called onto the carpet for unjustified reasons. <small>[ November 20, 2004, 09:42 AM: Message edited by: betrayedinjersey ]</small>
