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investigative help on om
#1231861 11/22/04 04:46 PM
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I do not want to do anything illeagal and will not. I have come into possession of the om's ss#, place of employment, even some credit card #'s. Where is the best place to use this info to do research on this guy. Again I won't do anything illeagal but I want as much info as possible. He lives 4 hours away and I would like to know as much as possible on this guy my wife has gotten her self involved with. He seems to be frow a wilder side of life from what I can tell. Any websites or other ideas would be appreciated
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"even some credit card #'s. Where is the best place to use this info"

At the mall, shopping for Christmas presents! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Seriously, it makes sense 2 know who he is and whether he has a W and family or not. Use that information 2 expose the A on his end 2 put pressure on it. And maybe, just maybe use it 2 confront him (via a letter, not in person) 2 let him know that he's damaging a family, if you have any indication that he might care about that (most don't).

You could also hire a PI 2 get this kind of information, or pay one of the online searches for info about him (I've not done that, and I don't know if it works or not).

Otherwise, I think only the place of employment info is of any real, legitimate use in this kind of si2ation.

-ol' 2long
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Do an internet search for background checks. Check for criminal history. In some states, you can also check his driving record.

If you find anthing questionable, there are a number of other perfectly legal steps you can take but may not appear ethical or moral by some's standards........does the word audit give you an idea?

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