Update! Met WW for breakfast, she talked about being numb! She claims to hate her bf, he is seeing x GF, and my wife is so upset! I am trying to be a good listener but to hear how much she is hurting from her bf sleeping with another is overwhelming. She told me about the new guy she is seeing! Only friends, she just spends the night with him and he puts his arm around her all night to comfort her, but nothing happens of course! They are just friends!
Tried to ask if she would consider counseling with me! A standard “I don’t know” was all I got!
What a shmuck I must be! Why do I even talk to this person? How can I sit and listen to her tell me things that rip me apart and avoid angry outburst? Just sit and try to be a good friend all the while I am retching inside!
didn’t ask for anything else, no come home, no stop sleeping with other guys . I didn’t try to get close to her! I just sat an listened to her complain about her BF and her new sleeping buddy! And how they don’t measure up! Just like I don’t!
Why did she want to have breakfast with me? Maybe I have not had enough pain yet! I guess this is a test! To see if I can take more than I should and still find it in my heart to want to save a marriage that only exist in my memories.
She told me that she would rather see a human hit by a car than a dog, she thinks more of animals than human beings. because a dog can not deceive her, and she cannot deceive them, I really think she should marry a dog, “unconditional love” but that’s what I am trying to show her, but it has not made any difference. If it were not for the fact that so many people on here are in the same boat as myself I would give up on her, and try to find a better person to waist my love on, as I look at the incredible amount of people that are going thru this, I know that just because I find someone new doesn’t mean that I will not go thru this again. Kind of makes you want to give up! What’s the point? If the whole human population is made up of cheaters and liars. Why put yourself thru it? Just live alone, no pain no deception! Just an existence!

Hi allxxs,

I'm sorry we missed this post.It was on page 3 and sometimes it gets really busy here that the turn over rate makes it hard to keep up with everyone.

I wanted to bump this up and see how you are today? Have you checked in with a doctor for possible AD's(antidepressants)? You are,understandably,very upset with your WW and the medication could help you manage better.

Are you in Plan A right now or have you given up? Can you please give us an update? Hoping you will stay with us.

O

<small>[ November 26, 2004, 09:59 AM: Message edited by: Octobergirl ]</small>

The whole population is NOT made up of cheaters of liars, there are just a lot of them who make it their aim to be in our faces.

We have the choice to remove them from our view. It w/b wise for you to create a plan. Have you read the concept section above? Have a good MC/IC? Can you do phone counseling w/Jennifer or Steve @ MB? Have you read His Needs/Her Needs by Dr. W. Harley?

You seem to have a good head on your shoulder. Please don't put all the rest of us in that bad A box. There are many out there who value life.

Post and vent as you need.

take care,
L.

yes i have given up! i no longer want to feel this way! i will no longer take her calls or call her, ther is no point in talking to someone that will never tell the truth! it only tears me down.please forgive me for sounding like i am attaking the people on here, far from it! i just know the pain we are all felling and want to be free of it myself. when i read the post from people on here that want and believe so badly it really hurts to think that i didnt do enough to save my marriage.but i did all that i learned on this site and from the book, and i waited for some sings that things were getting better, for two and a half years i listened to the lies, and now i find out that she is seeing a new guy, someone that has a reputation for being a player. if this man has a better place in her heat than myself. then i no longer want to decieve myself. and i dont want to hear how she still loves me but needs more time! i can only survive this if i close the door on what was, and try to build something new, i feel! am i wrong?
thanks for replying! all is appreciated!
and i am on a/d my fith one! it is helping!