***Edited to add: My mother lives in Oregon, I never get to see her, certainly not at holiday times...money is tight. My father lives in Colorado and we don't have the greatest relationship. Haven't spent Thanksgiving or Christmas with him or my mother in over 10 years...BUT, family is huge to me. All I have is my H...my two kiddo's and his family....***

Holidays are a time for gathering amongst family and sharing time together. What about that special couple time?
My H is going out of town hunting with his brother leaving at 2:00 am Friday morning and will be gone until Sunday evening.
I wanted him to go...I encouraged it, in fact, I practicaly set it up. Because he told me a few weeks ago, that he wanted to go.

I would have thought since he and I wouldn't have Thanksgiving weekend to spend together, that he would maybe want to do something special just he and I maybe Wednesday night or even this past weekend. Something special for just the two of us....NOTHING.

It wouldn't have to be anything money was spent on, go anywhere, nothing like that...just planned by him for us because he WANTED to do it.

Background on me...I was brought up that holidays and birthdays are big deals. He has known this about me for 12 years now. So nothing new.

He told me this evening that he thought having Thanksgiving dinner together with his parents, grandparents, and brother's family was enough.

Maybe it should be. Maybe I'm just jealous that for a 2nd weekend out of 3, he is getting to get away from everything and I haven't gotten to yet. And the first weekend was based all on lies to see OW 17 hours away.

Does anyone do something special around holidays as a couple to make sure that the "us" part of the marriage remains alive and special?

<small>[ November 22, 2004, 06:51 PM: Message edited by: LovingWifeInTexas ]</small>