My WW recently kicked OM out. She changed the locks on her apartment, so I feel its probably for good this time...

Was wondering, will she go through withdrawals if she is the one ending the affair? Its been about 1 year and 4 months since dday and I guess she finally realized OM wasn't all she expected him to be. She's been trying to get rid of him for awhile according to my Ds. I'm just wondering if she will continue contact with him since she kicked him out.... Anyone out there in this same type of situation with some info would be well appreciated...

Yep and when she wants you to fill in those mood swings (which btw can change in an instant), you might as well put on your padded waterproof rubber suit because she may take out her aggressions on you.

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Thanks Orchid but WW doesn't talk to me at this point. I'm hoping she may some day "regain" some feelings for me, but for now, I don't see much going on...

WW is down in Florida with her mom and our 2 Ds. They are spending Thanksgiving down there. If she starts going through withdrawals at least she will be with her family...

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Was wondering if there is much hope in this situation. WW has not said anything about working things out and I'm not sure what she wants at this point. We are still awaiting a court date for DV proceedings...

What of her ENs do you think you are still filling?

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Orchid, I have no idea. Like I mentioned before, I have not talked with her in some time. I don't know if I am filling any of her emotional needs. I'm not sure if she wants me to even try to fill any of those needs.

Should I try to communicate with her or should I remain dark? I'm kinda lost at this point in time. Any advice?

U R providing some major ENs. She is with the OM for the excitement. Time to give to let the OM carry some of the work ENs.

What do you think they are?

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lostwithouther.....

you just gotta continue on the path of the straight and narrow.....

your wife is alone is for the first time in a long time...

ironically she is exactly at THE one place where WS that leave a family and jump in to some new living arrangement that she has FEARED the most all along...

she is alone with only herself...

she has to face herself right now..
has to figure out how she let herself get so very lost...

will she use this time wisely...
you should pray for her to find peace
pray for her to re-establish contact with those things in the world that are of real value..
honesty.
honor.
childrens security..etc...

she may find that she can't stand being alone with herself so much that she just jumps in again with someone else or new...or goes back to what is known..

if she goes back it is because the OP can not hold her accountable because he is as guilty as she...

if she goes forward and drags someone new into this.....she just picks up her heavy load of baggage and burdens the next fool..

pity her if that is the route she chooses...

but pray that she uses this time...
to face herself...and seek forgiveness for herself...

show her glimpses of hope and forgiveness

It was for you lostwith that the whole lighthouse post was originally written..
and you may yet see it through to fruition...

give thanks that the OP is gone...
give thanks that your wife is with her children...
give thanks that the season is upon us...in which many seek the real reason for...and perhaps that will light her way home..

pray for the holy spirit to guide her home to herself...
and maybe even home to you...down the road somewhere...

ARK

ark, its strange, but I pray every day that God will lead her back to me and her family. I pray that she will forgive herself and me for the part I had in all this. I pray that I can be a better husband if she comes back. I pray that she will regain feelings for me. I pray that being with her mom and our children, she will remember the good times we had. There hasn't been a day that I haven't thought about her and prayed for her. Even after a year and 4 months, I still think about her daily. Is this a good thing or a bad thing, I don't know. Somedays I even pray and ask not to think about WW. I just want to put it behind me, but every day is another day I think about her. Maybe, like the OM was her addiction, she is my addiction...

I hope one day she will give me a sign as to what she wants. I keep thinking that I'll get an email, or a card or something saying she is thinking about me, but it never comes. I don't know if I should reach out to her with a card, message, or phone call or if I should just wait and see if she makes the first move. I don't think I'm a very good lighthouse right now...