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#1232670 11/24/04 02:36 PM
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Hello all. A friend of mine (yes a friend, there are 3 people I know in a small circle of people that are having M problems, something in the H2O) has the name of the OM that he is sure his WW is seeing. Any of you out there know how he cn get more info. He doesn't know much, just a name and a state. this is a long distance A, I wouldn't think there would be much use for a PI, besides, we ain't in the big city. Any websites or other things to use. He wants to find out as much as possible.

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Google the guy. Yahoo the address.

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When I was trying to get info on my ex-finacee after I found out he was married (a little late to be starting to inquire, I know) I went to google like AM said and found a site where I paid $59. and got a bunch of info on him even every single renter who had rented his rental units LOL.

He was from a state where you can access criminal/civil records on line, so I was able to get all info regarding his previous marriages, divorces, child support fights, DUI's, etc. Takes some time, but you can find out alot via the internet.

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Do you remember the site?

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I don't remember the site, and after a computer crash I have nothing in my email. But once you start doing "people" searches you will be bombarded with internet "PI" sites.

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Bear - try officer.com I believe it is available to anyone, not just law enforcement. Good luck.

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People Search in Google and you get pounded with PI's ads. You know, I get real p!ssed at all these sites and those that "promise" to give you the secrets to saving your M...fro $49.95. These people that pray on BS fears are some of the worst scum.

How does one know the site will deliver the info you want?

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Oh, I wasn't suggesting any of that. Just fiddle around with names, the parts of addresses you know, etc., and I suspect you'll collect some information.

I do this all the time. Part of my work means locating unfindable people, etc. You'd be surprised at the amount of info you can get for free. For example, workplace, email address, residence address, etc. Plus the random bits you'd never guess -- a letter to the editor they wrote three years ago, etc.

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As far as public records access, (I was hesitant about listing his state, but what the heck) I typed in "wisconsin court access" in google and got the court access site, it's free and shows all traffic tickets, divorce, C/S orders, RO, etc. Try it for the state he is in.

#1232679 11/24/04 05:32 PM
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Wow....that court access was one I hadn't tried.
Guess what I found?
A pending case against OW for unlawful detainer. The case is 12/6/04. Maybe that explains why my WH asked me to move out so they could move in??

Jerk!
Danielle

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this info was given to me but have not tried it yet.

If you can narrow down his full name and town he lives in then go to www.intelius.com. This site is the best out there and I have found all kinds of unlisted info by just having the names and a state of residency!

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Alright, glad this thread produced some info for someone. What is 'unlawful detainer', 12/6/04, is that when it goes to court?

Your WH wants you to get out of your house so they can play house? Don't budge a bit. In fact, document any harassment from OW and get a RO if you can. Sounds like she already has a lawyer on retainer, hahaha!

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unlawful detainer definition - an unlawful detainer lawsuit, also called an eviction, is a suit brought by a landlord to obtain possession of rented property and receive payment of back rent.
The court case is 12/6/04.
Monday I am going to work on the details for a RO against both my WH and OW.

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I can't find anything on googlwe with Rochester, ny court access? am I doing something wrong?

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One MBer recommended www.abika.com

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Mschluter -

Type in at google, New York court access.

I tried it and first comes up court access for NY Eastern division, but I went down the list and saw another NY court access which might lead you to the correct division.

This is public information and now most states do make it available online. I'm sure you will find something you are looking for.

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Daningirl- I know your story, your WH sends you some pretty sick emails and I think OW has spouted off to you to. If you saved that stuff, bring it with you to the P.D. Oh, and a question, how is WH and OW going to live in the country and raise horses when they can't even afford to pay the rent. OW has no place to live come Dec. Is WH living at home, if not plan B would open his eyes and I wouldn't let on you know about eviction.

I hope I am right about the horse story, there are so many tales here, but I remember yours vividly for your H's lunacy. Hang in there.

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Bear,
You are right about the horse story. Basically they live in FAIRY TALE LAND!! The OW had CPS at her door twice in the 4 months I have known her and she thinks that the "state has it out for her" and she can't wait to get to Maine so she can get away. I hate to break it to her, but her troubles will follow her because SHE creates them! My WH lives with the OW and the 3 children she has custody of. I really can't believe what he is doing...it's all so unlike the him I used to know. The reality of it is, she is 32 and doesn't even have a HS diploma...so I am not quite sure how they plan to achieve their house in the country with horses. If you read their e-mails to each other they act about 15 in dream land. It is almost funny...but horribly sad.
P.S. Sorry to thread jack...I apologize.
Danielle

#1232688 11/24/04 08:24 PM
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No apology necessary. I am awed sometimes at how good people, Which our WS were or we wouldn't have M, can go sooo wrong. I am conducting a search for this friend of mine tonight(I am more internet savy). I didn't know squat about this guy, now I have his name & address, time to find out more. He is most concerned about a criminal history. Rightly so. I'll check back often. Please, if anyone has more info as to where I can find out more about this guy post it here. He is very concerned about his WW and Son.

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http://www.anywho.com/

This site has reverse phone lookup, if they have a listed number.

Do Yahoo people search, and it will tell you what it finds, and "urge" you on to a pay site to learn more.

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