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HI everyone
First let me say, Ive been lurking here everyday, just am too down to post (if that makes any sense)
I'm moving to the Divorce Board, even though WH said he didnt want a divorce (whats up with that, i dont know).
WH has been gone 4 months, and living with OW now for 3 months. Obviously our separation is a permanent one.
I havent spoken to WH since the middle of September. It was filled with LB's. I am stuck in the anger stage.
Also, I am losing my love for him. Plan B is defintely working for me, but its not going to bring him back.
I need a knew Plan, can anyone help me.
thanks
A/C0810
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First I want to say I'm sorry for the way you feel and I hope things get better for you. If your really in Plan B then you need to stick to the Nc with your ws, This lets them miss you and lets the A die of natural causes. The only time during Plan B you should have contact with Ws is if it's an emergency and has to do withg any children involved. I do not know your situation and it would help all of the vets here better advise you. I will say a prayer for you today.
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Dear A/C,
I'm glad to hear from you again and I'm sorry that you're feeling so down.
Dear, dear lady,
what have you done for yourself these last months? Make a plan for A/C. What will you do with the rest of your life? Or simply with the next few years? You are more than just Mrs.
Think about what your dreams were apart from M, dreams, hopes, things that make you feel good.
Work from there. If your H will return and you still want him back - fine. If he doesn't - you'll have to get on with your life, too.
I'm not sure why your H doesn't want a D. Are there financial implications perhaps? Would you feel better if you had a D or not?
(((A/C))))
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A/C
I can see where you would feel hopeless it has been a while now. An affair can last up to two years before the passion and glory stages wear off. I don't know if I could have waited that long either. If you are in Plan B and you are losing your feelings for him then I think you are doing good for yourself really. When I was in Plan B it was so great for me. I got so strong and learned to love myself and that being alone wasn't all that bad after all. In fact there are days when I still wish I was alone. I know that sounds selfish but it is true. Just follow your head. Hugs!
HINY
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