Happy Thanksgiving to all MB'ers,

Today I gave my time to prepare meals for the less fortunate on Thanksgiving Day. I was there for six hours and it felt right! I made my mind up awhile ago that with all that is going on around me...it just can't be all about me...my soul feels better today. I feel a part of me restored today.

God also works in mysterious ways. I worked next to a volunteer and we got to talking. She was a very open person and she told me that she had recently divorced, in May. Her husband remarried in July, but he is waffling about staying in his new marriage. She revealed to me that she was a BS also. And then....you guessed it...I told her about MB. She told me about his hurtful fog talk and I said....yup...I know what you mean. Get on line at the web site and you'll see you are not alone.

So today I feel good because it's not just about me. I helped about 1,000 people make their day brighter with a warm meal and I helped 1 person by listening to her misery and offering her comfort and a resource.

It is funny because all my life at a time of serious need, strangers have come into my life to help me....a little like touched by an angel. Today I hoped I paid it forward.

As for me, it has been nine long months since Dday. In the beginning I thought the A would end right away and we would work on recovery. It didn't happen. I stayed in Plan A for six months, the A and lying continued. I built a relationship with God, leaned on family and friends (which I didn't know I had), took care of me (coaching, exercise, posting here). It prepared me for Plan B #1, one month false recovery and Plan B #2. I did all of that and today my soul also got touched.

The person I met today asked me, how I thought it would turn out and I said I don't know...but I am okay, however, it turns out. I will go on. She stated she hopes to be there someday....I said try MB and it will help you with that goal.

I leave for the overseas trip day after tomorrow to be with H. He is out of the fog more than ever in 9 months and I hope to God that withdrawal has started. The trouble is withdrawal seems like the same symptoms as contact....sullen, quiet, somewhat angry. I am going to try and not be so serious and just have a good time....and fill an EN. I hope I can do it and take a break from this.

Wish me luck and God bless to all. ss

SS...It's not about luck...take it from me! But, God bless!

Sounds like you had a good Thanksgiving.
I hope the woman you spoke with does join us here. You did really good with that.

I hope you have a good time on your trip.
I hope your H does make the steps forward to be back with you and your marriage together.
Try to have a good time, remember to keep those LBs out of your words and actions.

I hope you have a really good trip too!

I envy your Thanksiving!

It's funny about the woman you met yesterday, as I met learned about someone in that boat too. She is a good friend of my sisters whose husband came home two years ago and said he wanted a divorce, never loved her blah, blah, blah. He walked out and divorced her just like that and is now living with another woman.

Although she is dating another man now, she is stuck in pain, drinking all the time, in severe depression and unable to let go of what her XH did to her and her young son.

My sister and I are trying to get her here also, so she can find healing and peace through understanding.

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Hi SS,

I truly believe that one way to heal one's heart is through the gift of giving.It does remind you how we are all part of the whole,not just singular entities.We are all interconnected.Just by being human but in so many other ways too.It is easy to be caught up in the ME way of life but how empty that is.How much more deep and meaningful is it when we share with other's: in life,death,sorrow,happiness.

I feel so much more fulfilled when I am doing God's work.Helping other's.That's one big reason why I stay here and post.If I can make a difference to one person,even in a small way,I feel good about that.

In closing,I hope that you have a safe and secure trip to see your FWH and that all goes as well as can be.We will be thinking of you and supporting you across the miles.

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