Hello All:

It's 3:00 am in the morning and I am still awake, for some reason I cannot sleep at all and for the first time in my life, I am so lonely on thanks giving day. I was in my wifes house but only to pick-up my stuff her parents called me told me that I need to pick-up all my stuff because they are moving by the end of the week to the new house. My question is how can i survive HOLIDAYS being alone? I just cannot take it anymore, I as so tired being alone, I love my wife and daughter but wife seems to pick the OM over me. I am still on the Plan A to get her back but, I don't think it's working. Please let me know anybody can advise me what should I do on the Holidays or How to survive Holidays. Please, Please, Please,

Hi HL,

Sorry that you are hurting so much right now... I know it's tough, especially on the holidays...

Do you have any friends that you can talk with? Weekends and holidays are really slow around here...

I'm sorry but I'm not familiar with your situation... have you read all of the articles here on the MB website?

Semper Fi,
RIF

Hi HL,

How are you feeling now?

I went back and read your other posts.And a few things really stick out.First,losing a lot of weight to Infidelity is not a HEALTHY way to do so.Your body is under a major life stress/crisis right now.You need to discuss with your doctor getting on some AD's.Many of us here were on them or are taking them now and they can help you through this difficult time.You need sleep or you may just crash.Please consider this very serious OK? I understand your reluctance with doctor's but you have to come to grips with the fact that you may not be able to do this without help.Some people here never take AD's but if you are STILL having a very hard time sleeping and eating then really need to think twice.

I am sorry that your WW is in a big hurry to start over with the OM.She really seems to be steaming ahead without any thought as to the destruction in her wake.And she is going to be in for a big surprise when she realizes,over time,that all she did was trade one set of "problems" for the next.Whatever your WW thinks this OM is going to save her from,she doesn't know that it's bound to fail.Statistics do not support relationships from A's.

You are only about 4+ months into this so please understand that you are still so new and it's going to be hurtful.It took me about a year to get to a place where I don't cry everyday and the pain is much less now although it's been replaced with sadness but I am getting better.You will be OK no matter.Just keep telling yourself this.One day it will not hurt as much to go through the Holidays but for now,it's what you have to deal with.Support of family and friends can help at this time.Also your daughter.My kids have helped me very much just by being around and immersing myself in their worlds,spending a lot of time with them.

I get the impression from your other posts that your WW might be wanting to have the OM,have the child and have just about everything,all nice and easy.Is that correct? If so,fight for your rights and what you deserve.Obviously if you D then you have to arrange custody but at this point,your WW is not the one who is looking out for your child's best interest.She is squarely putting herself and your daughter in a precarious situation.Who knows how this is all going ot play out over time and one thing's for sure: we already know the character of this OM.He is not someone who should be involved with your child,let alone your WW but she is an adult and unfortunately made the decision to go with him.

There's a good chance your WW will never see the light until it's far too late.And it's sad that these WS's create all this pain and suffering only so they can selfishly have it their way.But the other's who posted to you are right: you do need to have or make a life for yourself despite the mess you are dealing with.Forging a new life for me and my daughters without WH in it has really made me feel better about everything.I feel stronger and more in control everyday.

And now while I am feeling more confident,my WH is still crying and doen't know what is wrong with himself.Whatever.I can't help him anymore.He is lost and confused and I just won't put myself in that painful siutation anymore.If he thinks the homewrecker is the answer than he can go find out.I can face myself in the mirror each night.I know he can't.

One day at a time ok? Stick with us.

O

Octobergirl,

I would like to say thanks you so much for the advice and I will try to get an appointment to the doctor before end of the year cause my wife just told me that she just cancel my medical from her work. And Stupid of me I never apply for my benefit from work due to I know that wife will add me on hers. Well even though that we are not divorce yet she cancel my medical already. she told me that I have until end of this year and after that I dont have any medical benefit she said I will be on my own after the year end. I think I need AD prescription and if not I think I just have to do something about it. I know that I can find something in the street for AD. But I appreciate all the care you advice me and I hope someday my wife will wake up and accept me again. I am trying to be with her but for some reason she love the OM more and she told me that she never have time to spend with the OM at all she said that she is always busy at work and dont have time to spend with him. One time she told me that she is feeling bad about me because of she has the OM. She mention one time to me, when I asked her that if how long they've been together? stupid of me I am asking, she told me that she really dont know but she said don't rub it in she said she feel bad about the situation already. Well I hope she will be back to me completely but I am scared that she is gong to lie to me again and still meet up with the OM. Anyway I just want to say I hate HOLIDAYS and sometimes I feel like I want to take my life away.