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i have a question for all the ww or Fww out there. it is 5.5 weeks since dday and my wife still appears to be in withdrawal, tho she says she is willing to try to work things out. we have been seeing mc for a year. how am i supposed to find the line between backing off and being patient and giving her some space, as opposed to smothering her and telling her ily and practically groveling? any input appreciated, as i am new to this and could use all the help i can get. i know i took her for granted and was not meeting all of her en's, but i didnt know, i thot we were happy. this whole mess has made me refocus and realize how much i truly love her. if you believe in god above, as i do please pray for us. thank you.

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I am a BH and am going through the same thing as you. I did many of the same things you are doing now and can tell you it doesn't help. My biggest advice is "Cool your jets". This process takes a very long time.

I am going to steal some tools from TooMuchCoffeMan's garage, thanks TMCM didn't think you'd mind. Click on the link. Here is some infor that should help you to start with. I alike the 12 Unattractive Things.

Hang in there.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=26&t=000016


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