hello, i have been reading on this site for a couple of weeks now and posted my story 2 weeks ago. i have received some good encouragment from a lot of you, thank you. now i have more questions. we go to mc tomorrow, [we have been for the last year, altho dday was exactly 6 weeks ago tomorrow], and i dont know what to say. i know about withdrawal, and i have been trying to meet her en's without pressuring her or expecting anything in return,but it sure would be nice for her to give me something positive here. she says she is willing to try, i just don't really see to much effort yet. it is so hard to try to meet her en's when most of mine are not being met. but i do love her and am willing to be patient, i guess i just needed to vent a little. i am learning more about unconditional love, and that is really how i want to love her, but it is hard.how long for the fog to lift, and see some progress from 'both" sides? i am late for work, gotta go, thanks in advance for any input.

I guess I don't really have any special advice. I am not an old timer at this either...I can tell you that I am only 12 days past NC, 49 days past D-Day and I am seeing a lot of encouraging little signs. It's probably the toughest thing you will ever do, and at least in my experience, you can't count on a lot of support from friends and family either..most of them will tell you to 'dump that loser'. Just know that if they were in the same shoes, 90% of them would do exactly what we are all doing..

Just never give up..there is hope..always hope