well,me and the ww went to mc today, and the idea of seperation was brought up by my ww. it is only 6weeks since dday, and i dont know if that would be a good thing or not, but it seems like a step in the wrong direction to me. she is still in withdrawal and a pretty heavy fog, so i know she is not thinking clearly. we both agreed if we do seperate it would be after the holidays for the kids sake. i never thot i would be in this situation, so any advice or input is greatly appreciated. thanks for listening, this site has been a big help to me in just the few weeks that i have been on it.

Is your WW still in contact with OM? Your W will have to go through withdrawals and she's not gonna like anyone during this time, but I feel you should continue to plan A her as much as possible. You cannot work on your marriage if you are separated. Think about what Dr Harley says about spending a minimum of 15 hours a week with your spouse alone. Can you do 15 hours if you are separated? I'm no expert here, but it seems logical that if you want to work on your marriage, separation is not an option.... I hope you the best...

New to the boards, posted a few times, but I have been in this suitation. I stayed in the home for a little over a year after I found out. H denied A, but continued with the "supportive friendship" even though I asked countless times to stop. I finally made the decision to move out with my 3 boys. Granted, I am now 8 houses over on another block, we don't have to pass each others houses, but the boys can still walk back and fourth.
Most of the advise I have been given has been to stay put and fight. Have a great plan A. But for me, I needed this "rest" after a year of the roller coaster. My boys are happier, due to the less fighting.(it got to the point just looking at each other was a LBer!) I still have WH over for dinners, movies and invite him to outings. (Even though currently we are speaking in refernce to child issues only.) Tonight we went to xmas play, sat seperately. WH didn't like that. But, I told him that the OW had to be out of the picture. Hes very unhappy, and waffling more then me and i thought i that was what I did the best! So,,, I agree with you, its too soon stay put, continue MC and fight for your M!