Even though things seem to be moving foward nicely here I still have ups and downs and just want some answers.

My biggest question is weather or not my WW will commit to me (Notice I said me not M, went that route once and look where we are now). "Try" is worth nothing in the end but even though she is treating me much better now, that is all I have gotten so far.

Of course it took about D-Day plus 3 weeks to get a committed "Try". D-Day plus 7 weeks and "Try" is still all I have from her even though we are getting better together everyday. Before that it was back and forth and usually ended up in favor of OM. As mentioned in another thread I judge that the "newness" kept her excited even though whenever we talked she basically ended up indicating somehow to me that she would stop the A.

She has been starting and restarting false NC for 4 weeks now.

I have to agree with classmates.com. I saw where they were advertising making romantic connections and there was just something very creepy about the whole thing. Then again, if someone is looking to have an A, it's just one of any number of sources a person can go to...

arj--
I would have to say give it some time still. Six weeks isn't a long time in the world of withdrawal. Again, your wife has an emotional attachment to someone and that's not going to go away any time soon. I wish it would, BELIEVE ME, but life doesn't work that way unfortunately.

greergan--
Until your wife has absolute no contact then recovery can not begin. You can't have both recovery and continued contact with the OP. It's not realistic. Also, if your wife has indeed established NC she will still be in withdrawal and fog bound for a while. She's not going to want anything right now until she gets through the worst of it. The OM was her drug, just like cigarettes or heroin. For a while it will take all she can to do NC so you might just have to accept that for a while. Are you two in counseling?

I have been to MC twice. We are both supposed to go next time but that is not until the 10th.

I realize that we can not officially start recovery until she is in strict NC. I just she would.

I have done everything possible to get her to change her cell # and delete any remaing secret email accounts. I finally realized that all my ranting and raving and dropping LBs was not a good thing so I must just what and hope.