Mel,
I don't know exactly what happened, but after a lot of searching it seems that you were pushed away by the thoughtless words of an OW. PLEASE rethink.

My lord, you were my saving grace! Without you and the others here I'd never have kept it together to this point. I went back to re-read the words you wrote that hit me between the eyes. Your words CHANGED MY LIFE. Believe me! Without your wisdom and my other MB supporters I'd have been LOST. NO ONE in my *real* life had the insight or connection to guide me the way you did.

Do you know, Mel, that I'm still struggling with the revelation you led me to? It was 30 years of my life and it's not easy to come to terms with this loss. BUT you opened my eyes to the truth and set me on a path toward personal health and happiness.

And it's not just me. It's my daughter who sees this change in me, and her friends who are struggling in their own relationships that talk with me and see what I'm going through. It's my friends in abusive relationships who had given up but now find strength.

Mel, you have a gift that you were kind enough to grace me with and I'm sure many others too. OK, I admit I'm being selfish, but if you still have the energy to read and respond to people in this terrible predicament, please don't let an OW push you away from us. Haven't we lost enough in the wakes of blinded Other People?

<small>[ December 02, 2004, 12:01 AM: Message edited by: haywire ]</small>

Haywire

I agree with your comments re; Mel.

However If I know her at all she'll be away for a while, when drop back in to read. She cares too much to flounce off here and she KNOWS how much help she has been to so many broken hearts.

Even in the 5 months I've been on here I've seen waves of anger, waves of polital correctness, waves of violence, waves of indifference all wash over the boards.

Since Noodles' post last month theres been a bit of back lash against WS ( and sadly FWS on occasion too) but since THEN a backlash against anyone daring to state that infidelity is a deliberately bad , sinful and hurtful act and that infidels need to work HARD get themselves right with God and the BS in order to recover anything from the mess.Mel didn't change her approach, the board did.

The recent waves also lost us SadFWW, KYellow4 and KiwiJ which is very sad for me as they helped me persoanlly enormously.

I hope and pray those folks rejoin when they're strong enough to give of themselves to help others and ocassionally take a bit of flak too.
And mel, if your reading, UR a darling and you know it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Bob, you've just made me feel really guilty because I know I said something mean once to Kiwi J. The trouble is, the way I was feeling that day, I couldn't help it.

I think people need to try and not get so offended. We are all adults with differing opinions. We are also all cursed with the rollercoaster of emotions that affairs bring into our lives. One day something gets by you, the next - absolutely no way.

So I think everyone needs to not take things so personally. If you post here, you are looking for advice. You might not like it or agree with it but so what.

By the way Bob. I love the way you spell 'mom' for your US friends. Sweet - but I reckon they'd know what you meant if you spelt it right!!

TT, in the Midlands we say and spell " Mom" not "Mum".

No translation involved honest ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

In the same way that you couldn't help being 'offensive' on that day, mebbe other folks can't help being 'offended' on those days too ?

This is by nature an emotional community.