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My fww and I had a discussion last night about affection and SF. She is at a point post A where she is unable to give me those things and I am at a point where I need them intensely.
She told me that she wants to do those things, but just can't. I honestly believe when she tells me that she just doesn't know what it is.
I asked her if she wants to cringe when I touch her...she said no..but it feels different because of what she did.
Can anyone who has gotten past this tell me what was going on in your (if a ww) or your ws's head when they were unable to give you affection or engage in SF even though they loved you and wanted to save the M?
<small>[ December 02, 2004, 06:01 AM: Message edited by: Hurting Hoosier ]</small>
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Hi. For me, it was hard to get back to that with my H because, to continue the A, I had to convince myself that my husband didn't care for me in that way anymore. It had been an issue in our M for awhile before A. Also, self-esteem (or lack of) kicked in, couldn't believe that my H could see me the way the OM did. The change from my H felt very strange and my emotions were in huge upheaval from withdrawal so a return to sexuality with my H was a slow process, despite a deep desire to reclaim my M, depsite a deep love for my H.
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Hi. For me, it was hard to get back to that with my H because, to continue the A, I had to convince myself that my husband didn't care for me in that way anymore. It had been an issue in our M for awhile before A. Also, self-esteem (or lack of) kicked in, couldn't believe that my H could see me the way the OM did. The change from my H felt very strange and my emotions were in huge upheaval from withdrawal so a return to sexuality with my H was a slow process, despite a deep desire to reclaim my M, despite a deep love for my H.
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