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My husband had an emotional affair with a woman he met at work. He was working Out-of-town at the time and was very lonely. She was pregnant by her husband, but didn't want to be. I found out about the affair (he feels it wasn't an affair because they never had sex) by a round-about method. He is one of those men who don't feel they lie, he's just protecting me from the truth. Anyway, I suspect he still hasome contact with her, although his job brought him home about 6 months ago. My question is, how do I broach the subject without him getting all defensive and yelling (that's how he deals with most conflicts)
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Dougswife, I was in close to the same boat as your H. I didnt see it as an affair. On a family trip I realized the friendship had gotten to deep. STILL didnt see it as an affair. But to make my wife happy I cut all contact, changed fire houses to keep from having to work with OW. Then the withdraw hit. I STILL didnt see it as an affair. I mean, I never had sex with the OW, never told her I loved her, didnt want my marriage to end. So it wasnt an affair right? WRONG!!!! It took reading what I have posted a link to for me to realize IT WAS AN AFFAIR. http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=31;t=016249Maybe you can go to that page, print it out and give it to your H.
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