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i have a question about how i am supposed to act while my ww goes thru w/drawal. i think i read someone say that you can't meet there en's while they are in w/d. is this true? should i only be trying to avoid lb's? i think i need to back off a little, but i don't know.we have discussed this w/ mc and that is where i came up w/that. i just need to give her some time? i just want to do whatever i can to make the m better then ever. thanks for any input.
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arjdad....
The saying goes on this site that you should meet the ENs that the WS in withdrawl will LET you meet.
The rest of the time, you should back off. Don't take it personally. Real recovery doesn't begin until withdrawl ends.
Hard to do at best. Exercise patience. Harder to do. My patience is getting so much exercise lately that it's getting pretty "muscle-ly".
Expecially considering that I really don't know that WH is in withdrawl right now.
Plan A. Expect nothing in return for your efforts. They will be appreciated later....I hope.
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It is very difficult indeed. My fww woke up this morning apparently primed for a fight..she tried every way possible to piss me off and instigate something..there would have been no EN meeting this am.
Of course, sometime this morning she will feel like sh*t for her behaviour and leave me a cell phone message telling me she's sorry...then the cycle begins again...maddening...but necessary according to the experts and those that have been there...done that.
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