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In a nutshell my brother and his wife are having big problems. My brother is in heavy withdrawl (an A is not a possible reason). Can his wife use plan a plan A of sorts to pull him out of withdrawl?
Any other advise you can give her. I'm giving her a copy of His needs/Her needs tonight.
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Sleepless,
You are on the right track. HisN/HerN is the best thing at present....without knowing why the withdrawal. Withdrawal or depression?
Anti Depressents??
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Plan A type behavior (meeting needs, no lbs, no expectations) IS good for approaching withdrawal, but it quickly becomes exhausting when it is not reciprocated. It is worth a try....but should have a time limit in the range of 3 weeks to 3 months (about the time it takes to establish new habits). After that....it appears that you get diminishing returns and resentment grows to the point where conflict erupts. Remember that Plan A is not devoid of boundaries and no spouse should be a doormat!
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OK thanks guys, I will tell her and I have printed your responses to give her.
I will be sending her here also. Which board should she post on? EN?
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